(Closed) Bridesmaid backed out!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have your sister talk to the girl to see if it truly is a matter of financial committment.  The dress is not that expensive.  What else is she required to purchase?

Post # 4
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think your sister should indeed talk to the Bridesmaid or Best Man, they are good friends and should be able to level with each other. If, after the talk, the Bridesmaid or Best Man sticks to her decision, then I wouldnt ask another girl to stand in…having a Bridesmaid or Best Man less than a Groomsmen is not a big problem.


Post # 5
13292 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think asking someone else 10 weeks out will definitely make them feel like a Back-up/Second Choice Bridesmaid or Best Man. 

Has your sister tried calling this girl and asking about her reasons for cancelling?  It seems like it may not be financial, but rather, some other reason. 

Post # 7
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with you…If someone is really your friend, they dont tell you things like that via text.

Post # 9
8727 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@roxx123:  I find it is better not to assume that we know anyone elses financial situation. For example most of my friends wouldn’t know we are struggling at the moment since I have been off work for a long time ill.

If the Bridesmaid or Best Man isn’t able to afford it then that is that. Theorising or making assumptions on her financial/life situation wont help anything. If she feels she cannot afford it then that is all there really is. Would you prefer she go into debt and get into financial dire straits just to be in the wedding?

I agree that the Bridesmaid or Best Man probably should have called but think about it from the BM’s perspective- she is letting a close friend down and is probably really disappointed that she wont be able to take part in her firends day.

Honestly if my close friend couldn’t afford to take part in my wedding I would find a way  for them because it would be more important to me to have a friend there than a dress!


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