Post # 1
I have been dealing with a good friend and her alcholism. She is also a bridesmaid in my wedding. We have been friends for over 20 years. I recently confronted her on her drinking habits and she became very defensive ( as i thought she would)
Today i get an email from her telling me that she will no longer be a bridesmaid in my wedding. I am not getting married till June and the dresses have not been ordered, but i am truely hurt.
What should I do? I sent her back an email telling her that I am sorry to hear that and that I appericate her heads up. I do not want to beg her and i also do not want to ask someone else to be included as a replacement. I just need some help or words of wisdom.
Post # 3
That’s unfortuante. But that’s how it goes with alchoholics, you can only say soo much… after that oh wells.
Hopefully one day she’ll realize until then you’ll just have to let her be.
Post # 4
Thats very sad but theres not much else you can do except respect her decision and find someone else to replace her.
Post # 5
@LunaKim – Sorry to hear what has transpired. Unfortunately, there isn’t much that you can do. You’ve been there to support her in the past, but she is not at the stage where she can admit there is a problem. That is the most challenging part. It’s up to you whether or not you continue the relationship or move forward. I know this is tough, because I had an ex-bf that was an alchoholic. Sadly, he never changed. Good luck and don’t let this ruin your joy!!
Post # 6
I dealt with a similar issue with a very good friend of mine. She might be backing out to hurt you the way she feels you hurt her by confronting her. Unfortunately, people with serious drinking problems do not always think rationally. I have found that they are very focused on themselves and do not see how their actions affect other people. This may be a blessing in disguise. My good friend made quite a drunken scene at my bridal shower. (She had told me she had been sober for 6 months) I then had to disinvite her from the bachelorette party and I spent WAY too many hours stressing about what may happen at the wedding. My advise would be to do exactly what you said, email her back and say I’m sorry to hear that. This may be her way of trying to get attention from you and having you apologize. But it doesn’t sound like you have anything to apologize for. You were just being a good friend.