posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That’s unfortuante. But that’s how it goes with alchoholics, you can only say soo much… after that oh wells.

Hopefully one day she’ll realize until then you’ll just have to let her be.

Post # 4
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Thats very sad but theres not much else you can do except respect her decision and find someone else to replace her.

Post # 5
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@LunaKim – Sorry to hear what has transpired.  Unfortunately, there isn’t much that you can do.  You’ve been there to support her in the past, but she is not at the stage where she can admit there is a problem.  That is the most challenging part.  It’s up to you whether or not you continue the relationship or move forward.  I know this is tough, because I had an ex-bf that was an alchoholic.  Sadly, he never changed.  Good luck and don’t let this ruin your joy!! 

Post # 6
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I dealt with a similar issue with a very good friend of mine. She might be backing out to hurt you the way she feels you hurt her by confronting her. Unfortunately, people with serious drinking problems do not always think rationally. I have found that they are very focused on themselves and do not see how their actions affect other people. This may be a blessing in disguise. My good friend made quite a drunken scene at my bridal shower. (She had told me she had been sober for 6 months) I then had to disinvite her from the bachelorette party and I spent WAY too many hours stressing about what may happen at the wedding. My advise would be to do exactly what you said, email her back and say I’m sorry to hear that. This may be her way of trying to get attention from you and having you apologize. But it doesn’t sound like you have anything to apologize for. You were just being a good friend.

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