Post # 1
My FH’s sister called me today. She asked if I have a friend that is her size who can buy her bridesmaids dress that she has already ordered and paid for. She said that she really can’t afford it. If I can’t find anyone she said she was in. I’m not sure that I even want her to be in it anymore…… then I will hear about getting her hair done, shower, bachelorette party, etc. If I ask my cousin, it’s not right that she pay full price for her dress…… and I’m not even sure that I want to ask my cousin. What do you suggest??
Post # 3
I don’t know. I had to back out of a wedding due to being pregnant. I would have had to buy another expensive dress to fit me where I am now. She ended up asking her cousin and they paid me full price for the dress. Why should I have to incur the cost if I’m not going to be in the wedding all because I am now pregnant? Unless you don’t think its really because of financial reasons, I think you’d be a decent friend to help her out.
Post # 4
Is there any way that you could help to reduce some of the costs involved with her being a bridesmaid? As in, let her wear shoes that she already owns, do her own makeup/hair etc? Or for the shower, ask her to contribute something that doesn’t cost much, like some food or such? That might enable her to afford the dress.
Post # 5
If she says she can’t afford it, I would graciously let her opt out.
I would however, only add another bridesmaid if I truly wanted that person in the wedding party. If there isn’t anyone else I want, I would tell her that and give her the option of staying in the wedding party or selling the dress to recoup some of her cost.
If I did ask someone else, I would be upfront with them about the cost of the dress(and it should be the whole cost of the dress) and any other wedding associated expenses.