(Closed) bridesmaid backing out

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t know. I had to back out of a wedding due to being pregnant. I would have had to buy another expensive dress to fit me where I am now. She ended up asking her cousin and they paid me full price for the dress. Why should I have to incur the cost if I’m not going to be in the wedding all because I am now pregnant? Unless you don’t think its really because of financial reasons, I think you’d be a decent friend to help her out.

Post # 4
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Is there any way that you could help to reduce some of the costs involved with her being a bridesmaid?  As in, let her wear shoes that she already owns, do her own makeup/hair etc?  Or for the shower, ask her to contribute something that doesn’t cost much, like some food or such?  That might enable her to afford the dress.

Good luck! 

Post # 5
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If she says she can’t afford it, I would graciously let her opt out.

I would however, only add another bridesmaid if I truly wanted that person in the wedding party. If there isn’t anyone else I want, I would tell her that and give her the option of staying in the wedding party or selling the dress to recoup some of her cost.

If I did ask someone else, I would be upfront with them about the cost of the dress(and it should be the whole cost of the dress) and any other wedding associated expenses.


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