(Closed) Bridesmaid bailed on wedding due to no vegetarian option???

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 196
Member
57 posts
Worker bee

vegetarianthrowaway :  5 months?!

OK she’s being a bit ridiculous then. Different story if she’s been one for five years. 

I’d let her go and let the friendship go. I think in this case you’ve been more than accommodating in offering to buy her a meal before and after. If she chooses to still throw a tantrum then that’s on her. 

Post # 197
Member
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think there is more at play here than a vegetarian meal but putting that aside for the moment, it would really be the right thing to do to accomodate her vegetarian request. It’s possible others attending could want a vegetarian option too, and I bet if they asked on the day of the staff would arrange something. Most places would since they want to see happy guests having fun that leave great reviews. It could be for private medical reasons she choses to eat vegetarian or just preference, but either way it would be right to support her the way she has supported you so far. Me and sister both have very specific dietary needs so understand that completely. As @weddingmaven commented, work your way up the chain to make it happen and work with the venue for 1 dish. Not their first rodeo I’m sure

Now back to the more at play as another bee said earlier. It really feels like she’s having a difficult time with more than just the vegetarian option whatever that may be. May have been the last straw, but it would be best to have an honest conversation with her and explain that you still would love to have her there, will find a way to accomodate her dietary need/request and ask if she has other hestitations about the wedding. I would apologize for not understanding how she may feel. She may be struggling financially or with the vacation days or something else. If it doesn’t work out then not much you can do

Post # 198
Hostess
8549 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

After 14 pages, a lot of rude responses between posters and a lot of flags I am afraid I am going to have to close this thread. 

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