(Closed) Bridesmaid bailed on wedding due to no vegetarian option???

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

My brain hurts from the sheer stupidity of this post… 

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

[comment edited for violation of TOS] I can’t imagine that a venue or caterer would be so rigid and backward as not to accomodate a common food preference. Vegetarianism, food allergies, they should be used to it.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

This cannot be real

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

DanaWeddingGuest :  

My cousin and her daughters asked for a gluten free option. My caterer was able to adjust one of our dishes to their gluten free requirements without changing the price

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper

I love the comment that the OP can’t afford to add an extra entree – but expects her friend to spend THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS to attend this wedding where she wont even have a meal. 

I too hope this is fake, I hate to think there are actually such horrible people masquerading as “friends” in this world. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee

TBH, I think it’s pretty crappy in general to serve BBQ (as in, cheap) at a Destination Wedding that costs guests thousands to attend

Post # 37
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Sugar bee

My caterer has asked us multiple times if we have any guests with dietary restrictions.

It is these companies’ JOBS to make allowances for the one off guests who require special consideration.

It sounds as if you haven’t even CHECKED what they could do for her. Your attitude about this is inconsiderate in the extreme.

Post # 38
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Worker bee

Vegeterian here. 

 

I would be so insulted that a good friend of mine could think so poorly of me. I would have hung up too. Eat alone after having done so much for you? You cannot be bothered to shell out a little bit more to make sure your “friend” eats? 

 

Even if you tried to make it right at this point, I would still decline just out of sheer disgust with your attitude towards someone you supposedly consider close. You need a serious attitude adjustment…It’s not cute.  

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

vegetarianthrowaway :  LOL is this a joke?

Ya no shit she’s pissed and not coming, I wouldn’t either

Also way to serve a cheap BBQ option to your guests while they shell out thousands on your wedding.. 

 

Post # 40
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Busy bee

AnonBee2019 :  That’s what I was thinking. Unless it’s in Hawaii and is a luau or something.

OP assuming you knew from the get go that she was vegetarian since she’s close enough to be a bridesmaid? When I was picking out entrees from my caterer I made sure to include a veggie option since I knew of at least three guests who are vegetarian. That was for a 60 person reception. I’m not sure how this didn’t cross your mind for an 11 person dinner during the planning process.  

Post # 41
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Busy bee

I’m on her side. lol 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

vegetarianthrowaway :  .[comment edited for violation of TOS] No real bee would make a throw away account for something as simple as a Bridesmaid or Best Man needing a veggie option… because you know what… there is no drama around this. You tell the venue you need one veggie dinner and they will make you one for free (or very little cost). Post over. 

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

This is one of the reasons why I’m against destination weddings. It’s asking so much of people to spend money, days, travel, and basically sacrifice their own vacation to go on a bride/groom-themed vacation. If you want to travel. Travel. Go on a destination honeymoon. But why do couples think it’s okay to ask others to do this?

But you’ve taken it a step further. Not only do you expect your bridesmaid to shell out to go to your destination wedding + the other trappings a bridesmaid is traditionally expected to pay for (such as their dress), but you also expect her to not eat at your hours long reception, likely after spending all day with you getting ready and posing for pictures?! And you think it’s okay to only offer her a meal she can eat by herself in her hotel room likely late at night?!

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

I’m having a bbq meal for my wedding a well. I have vegetarians too. You know what I did? I talked to the caterers and paid extra to order individual meals for those people who can’t eat meat. I’ve added basically $20 per vegetarian. Which, given that they are traveling to celebrate me is nothing!

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