(Closed) Bridesmaid boo boo – how to fix it?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

jr bridesmaid for god daughter.. not sure bout ur friend

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I think you saved yourself with “maybe.”

You didn’t commit to making her a bridesmaid, and you’re not engaged yet, so just don’t mention it again.

Months down the line when your wedding plans are underway, she’ll get an invitation and attend like a regular guest.  It might be awkward, but there are waaaaay too many posts about bridesmaid drama- you don’t want to pick someone who isn’t in it to win it!

Good luck.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think like pp said earlier, that you saved it by saying “maybe.” 

Just be sure not to mention it again around her! 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I want to have my 50 year old aunt, as well as my 25 year old friend and 23 year old sister. So as long as its important to you, who cares what age they are?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i think you handled it pretty well with “maybe.” i would just be careful not to mention wedding plans around her, so it doesn’t come up again.

you could make your goddaughter a junior bridesmaid or a regular bridesmaid (or even your flower girl if you wanted to be really different). my bridesmaids are in their mid/late 20’s and my maid of honor (my cousin) is 17. she’s like my baby sister and i couldn’t leave her out of my wedding.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If she seems to still be interested in being a bridesmaid later, you can give her some “urgent” task to do, like be in charge of the guest book or something. Otherwise, take her lukewarm response to your wedding as an indication that she doesn’t care. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

there’s not really a huge difference between a bridesmaid and a junior bridesmaids. a junior bridesmaid is usually a teen/pre-teen. being that she’s younger, she probably wouldn’t be “on call” to help the bride like a bridesmaid would be and her dress would be a little different (that is if the bridesmaids dresses weren’t age appropriate for her). that’s about where the differences end. they walk down the aisle and stand up with the bride just like the other bridesmaids.

personally, i’ve never been a fan of the idea of junior bridesmaids. i don’t know why. i just think it’s weird. but more power to those who choose to have them 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Jr. Bridesmaids have more modest dresses, or more modest versions of the same dresses. They often attend (appropriate) showers, but of course aren’t required to plan any, and seldom are expected to bring gifts. They usually walk down the aisle ahead of the other bridesmaids, and sit in a pew (I’ve seen them have to stand up in one or two weddings, but it was a little much for them). 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My 17 year old god daughter was a bridesmaid, but she’s my baby.  Your god daughter will loooooove the experience!!! She’ll feel so special.

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