- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
All of my Bridesmaid or Best Man are in tight financial situations so I got creative. I found an ivory lace skirt on LaPoshStyle.com (a boutique website) for $32, and then I cut out paint chips in subtle variations of my wedding colors (aqua and mint). The Bridesmaid or Best Man get to pick their shirts so long as it coordinates with one of the paint chips. You could use this paint chip idea with whichever (or both) wedding color you’d like the dresses to be. Also, check around the various boutique websites, you can get some great dresses for less than $50. Some off the top of my head are ustrendy.com (1000s of dresses!), modcloth.com, etsy.com, and shopruche.com. Oh, and a great site for very inexpensive jewelry and accessories is simpleaddiction.com. Just google “boutique website” and you’ll have hundreds of shops to choose from.
I dont know what stores you have in Canada, but maybe something like an Old Navy, or JCpenney, Target, maybe even a Macy’s with a coupon. I dont know what the size range of your bridesmaids are, but these stores carry straight and plus sizes.
One more idea is to rent a designer dress from renttherunway.com. You can rent a ~$200 dress for $50, and they send you 2 sizes at no extra cost.
I would let her pick whatever dress she wanted because people on ODSP have every little money whatsoever to even cover basic necesseties and she might want to choose something that she could possibly wear again. It sounds like this person is dear to you and you want her to stand up in your wedding,
Personally I suggest you hold off on buying anything and shop the January sales where all the party dresses are marked down substantially.
So, I think if the Bridesmaid or Best Man has such tight restrictions, being a Bridesmaid or Best Man may not be a good idea for her. She may not be able to do the other things a Bridesmaid or Best Man may be expected to do. I’d give her the option of an out. I don’t think giving her the option is embarrassing, I think it will alieve her of another fiancial burden she may not have expected to be so large. To kick her out is a different thing entirely.
Sometimes it’s not just about having the time to save up for the dress – it’s also the fact that when you’re fairly broke, spending a ton of money on a throwaway dress is downright frivolous and not always doable.
It sounds like you’re leaning towards letting them pick a dress in a color scheme…? I think that’s a really good middle ground and will help her feel included and breathe a sigh of relief. She probably wants to be there for you but is stressing about the money.
I bought my ladies dresses at JCP. 45 dollars for all three. There are totally options out there, just avoid anything wedding related. It somehow triples prices.
Wow, she is on disability and “the least she could do” is buy a dress for your wedding? You have all of these reasons why you can’t afford it (on mat. leave with a new baby, other wedding related costs, unexpected expenses coming up), but her meager disability cheques aren’t enough of an excuse for you? Bruuuutal!
I would be honoured to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and would never expect the bride to pay for my dress. I guess that’s just a very Canadian way of thinking. Now… if I was in a wedding and I was asked to pay $400 for a dress I’d have a hard time, and expect to have some of it paid for.
I think that it would be good to ask your friend if she could pay more in a few months time – and if the answer was no – I would try normal stores, or mismatched dresses. I was at a wedding a few weeks ago with mismatched bridesmaids and my favourite dress in the bunch cost $30 (it was on sale, but still!!).
@isabelle_86 My colors are also Purple. But im putting my girls in black, and they will be carrying purple flowers. I think black is classy, simple, and affordable! Plus, you dont want to shove your wedding colors down peoples throat, just nice hints of color to make your day pop!
And I’m sorry, but it is ridiculuous, and yes, BRUTAL that a bridesmaid would have to step down due to lack of funds, whether through her own initiative (I would be mortified if I had to!) or not.
@turnanewleaf There IS something humiliating, however, in being forced into the painful acknowledgement that your lack of finances will restrict you from a special role in a loved one’s wedding. I just feel that is is so elitist, and heartbreakingly insensitive and unfair, that someone should be denied the joy and honour of being in your wedding because YOU are putting them in a strained financial position.
My bridesmaid dresses were $46 each from DressBarn. I can’t see any particularly nice purple ones for under $50 on their website at the moment, but they do seem to come and go, so you could check there every now and then if you have trouble finding something.
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