- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
So all h**l has broken loose between my bridesmaids…
From the beginning… My sister is my Matron of Honor, and I also have my best friend of almost 9 years as my Maid of Honor (She was in the process of a divorce, but has gotten back together with him recently. She hasn’t asked me to change her title) I have 3 other bridesmaids.
One bridesmaid said from the beginning she wanted to throw me a lingerie shower for me and invite all the bridesmaids and a few friends/family.
My Matron of Honor (Sister) and BM (cousin) want to plan a Couple Shower for FI and I.
Maid of Honor (Best friend) wanted to plan my bachelorette party. (I was all for it because she is pretty fun!) Well, she told me she wanted it to be a surprise and wanted to blind fold me until we got there… Made me nervous! The plans had to be cancelled because when she told the other BMs the plans, they realized she was planning a weekend trip and traveling over 15 hours from our homes!
She got upset and said “Forget it!! Just send me a d**m invite!”
So, another BM picked up planning the bachelorette party and made a group FB page for all the other BM to add input or suggestions. (I was so thankful she did that, because I didn’t want anyone left out.)
Maid of Honor (Best friend) wanted to be included so she decided she wanted to throw me another bridal shower. (I’m so blessed all of them want to be so included and it made me happy they all care so much!) She sent me a date & time she was thinking about and I said that should be fine I’ll just have to check my calander. (I work 3 jobs in 2 different cities–Very busy)
The calls were saying “Do we need to bring gifts to all of these showers?” I don’t want my BM to go broke giving gifts! I’m thankful to just have them want to be in my wedding.
She immediately put it in the group message as “BRIDAL LINGERIE SHOWER” I got tons of calls from my other BM saying “I thought “bridesmaid3″ was throwing your lingerie shower?!”
This threw me off guard because Maid of Honor knew “Bridesmaid 3” was throwing the lingerie shower from the beginning.
Maid of Honor got mad again and said “Forget it!! I’m not planning anything anymore. No one likes my ideas and I just don’t care anymore! Just send me an invite!!”
Everyone is pretty fed up with everything being about her at this point. Especially my Matron of Honor.
Maid of Honor also text me a month and a half ago telling me she was trying to get pregnant and if I would be upset if she got pregnant. I told her I wouldn’t be upset.
Well, she text me the other day that she needs to get her dress resized because she is pregnant and has been since she text me “saying she was trying”. She will be 6 months pregnant at my wedding. Which I’m fine with because I think pregnant people are so cute and I know she’s been trying to get pregnant for a long time. I just wish she would have been honest with me so she could have gotten the dress situation handled then.
Basically…I’ve focused so much time on her and whether she’s upset or not, I’ve taken so much focus off myself… I’m the kind of person, where I’m always concerned with everyone else, except myself. I guess for once I was excited for everything to be about me (and FI of course haha) I don’t mean to sounds self conceited but it’s a once in a lifetime thing for me and I want to fully enjoy it.
How do I handle this?!