Bridesmaid Challenge

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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1191 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I would have her on my side at least. You could always ask her later, but it would be terrible to fire her from the job!

Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Why would you want someone who doesn’t support your marriage in the wedding party? You’ll end up back here months before the big day complaining about her poo-poo attitude. It’s not worth the stress and if she gets upset you can explain that you didn’t feel like she supported the wedding with her negative attitude. 

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper

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graced :  

Wait till you are actually engaged and then wait some more, unless you are having a very short engagement . Then ask those,  and only those that you totally want and are supportive.

Don’t get anxious and overeager too soon. 

Post # 19
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1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Don’t ask someone to be a bridesmaid out of obligation.   It rarely works out.  Ask those you’re closest to.  However,  you’re worrying about this way too soon.  Don’t push wedding stress on to yourself sooner than you have to.  Wait until you get engaged and actually set a date and then start to think about who you’d like to stand up with you.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m confused: why have someone in your bridal party who doesn’t support your union? 

Youve said the other sisters won’t be in the bridal party so I can’t see this being a major issue. If your boyfriend is stuck on the idea then he can have her in his party. It’s 2018, no one will care which gender stands on which side.

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