(Closed) Bridesmaid changing for reception

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you let your bridesmaid change outfits?

    Yes, after pictures of course!

    No, and I would be offended if she asked.

    No, it would ruin the look of the wedding.

    Maybe, depends on the reasoning.

  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    yikes! under any other circumstances, i would probably not be okay with it.  If they just didnt like it, tough! they’d have to suck it up.  But if one of them came to be and said they couldn’t breathe, well i would definitely make an exception! 

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Is there any way at all to alter the dress so that it’s more comfortable? Like having removable straps added that you can put on after the photos? Or a nice bolero or something. I think if you really really can’t stand to wear it, after the ceremony and photos I say take it off and change into a pretty cocktail dress– something that still fits being a bridesmaid, or even in the same color.  But first I would take it a really good seamstress and see if there are any other options. In the end, it’s important that you have fun too.  If you’re miserable it will be a loooong night!

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Can you take it to a seamstress and have her add an elastic gusset? This can be done invisibly, covering the elastic insert with the dress fabric.

    You could also ask her to add straps or a halter that you could tuck in during the ceremony and bring up after. This would give you some extra supprt. The gusset will give you breathing room.

    Post # 7
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Would you consider getting a temporary job to earn some extra money?

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    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would ask her but do so privately. Calmly explain that you are worried you’ll cause a scene with a panic attack due to your breathing issue and if she would mind if you could change after the pictures. Assure her that your dress is appropriate.

    If I were the bride, I’d rather let you change than worry you’re going to pass out.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly, I would just suck it up and deal with it.

    If you thought it was so strange to be invited into the bridal party, you should have declined.  I wouldn’t ever ask a bride if I could change as a bridesmaid, unless for some reason everyone was doing it.

    I’m sorry it’s not comfortable, but it’s only a few hours – then you can sell it and move on.

    Good luck!

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i think you’re kind of just asking for drama if you don’t wear the dress the whole time. i’m not a confrontational person so i wouldn’t stop you if this was my wedding, but i would feel really hurt. there has to be some solution with alterations (is there anyone in your family you can ask for help from, since this is a family wedding?), or even just wear a cardigan or a during the reception pashmina. it sucks that this cousin was more considerate in finding a dress that worked for her maids, but you should have spoken up to her sooner if it didn’t work for you, or if you really didn’t want to be in her wedding you shouldn’t have agreed to be

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Scarlettblonde: If it’s her fault the original dress didn’t work out, she should have repaid you the $100 you spend on that. Maybe you could ask for that, and use it to get alterations?  Or just say that since you paid an extra hundred, maybe she could pay for the alterations?

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last fall, and halfway through the reception, one of the other maids changed out of her dress and into jeans and a t-shirt.  I honestly thought it was kind of ridiculous.  I agree with PPs.  You either need to find a way to do some alterations, or you need to deal with it.  The time to talk to the bride about it has long passed.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    So I’m a just a bit confused on the fit of the dress…it sounds like it’s the right size because if you go up a size, it’s too big? Would a little bit of a diet/ extra working out in the next 2 weeks help it fit better?

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Lee_Ann: I totally agree. If one of my girls was uncomfortable and in pain – not cool! Let ’em change!

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    @thewheelsonthebus: I actually agree with this, as blunt as it may sound.

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