(Closed) Bridesmaid changing for reception

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you let your bridesmaid change outfits?

    Yes, after pictures of course!

    No, and I would be offended if she asked.

    No, it would ruin the look of the wedding.

    Maybe, depends on the reasoning.

  • Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’d take a cardigan or similar to wear after the photos. I don’t think changing out of it would be an option.

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d be kinda mift, i can’t lie.  Shoes i’d totally understand swapping out for flippy-floppies, but not the dresses.

    Post # 19
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    One of mine changed but she was 7 1/2 months pregnant…just ask her and tell her the reason whats the worse that could happen?  she prefer you not to change  GL!

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    As long as all the bridal pictures are done first, I would have no problem with the fact of someone changing. Damn, after our pictures are taken I myself will be changing into something more comfy myself. When I was married to my first husband, we changed into matching Jeans and Tshirts after photo’s and cake cutting. My future H and I will be getting comfortable as well. I will probably wear a different dress, but he will for sure be wearing jeans and a tshirt.

    I am letting my girls pick their own dresses, they have the swatches for the wedding colors, and each will wear one of them; Maid/Matron of Honor will wear Blue, Bridesmaid or Best Man1 is Green, Bridesmaid or Best Man2 is Yellow and Flower Girl is Pink. The Best Man and Groomsmen will wear the same color tie as their corresponding BM’s dress. I want them to be comfortable and pick a dress they will wear again, they are paying for it, so they might as well like it.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I am not understanding why you are not telling the bride about this problem.  To just change and have the bride not knowing why would surely cause problems.  You should politely tell her the problem and ask her if it is okay to change.  If she is against it, tell her what you told us about not being able to afford alterations due to losing your job and that you did spend $100 for a dress that was nonreturnable.  If she is still not sympathetic bring a shawl, cardigan or something that you can wear over the dress as you unzip/unfasten and give yourself room to breathe.  Honey, you have to speak up for yourself!  If you don’t, who will?

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee

    If you are comfortable hand sewing a bit, you might be able to add two little eyes on either side of the zipper, inside the dress. Then, during the reception, you could unzip the bodice, add a band of elastic with hooks on it to keep the dress closed, and wear a cardigan over top. you could probably add the same sort of hook and eye setup to add straps that would hide under the cardigan, and then you could set it even looser without worrying about it sliding down.

    Something like this:

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee

    Also, you can definitely breathe deeply without expanding your ribs. They teach singers to breathe that way.

    Stand straight, then think about pushing your diaphragm down and out. You don’t need to change the way you breathe for a wedding, but if your ever feeling caustrophobic, taking a couple of deep breaths this way may help.

    Post # 24
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    This is the sole reason why I’m having mismatching bridesmaid dresses. I was once forced to wear a hideous dress that made me look like a complete fool. I brought additional clothes and changed after the formal pictures were finished.

    If one of my bridemaids wanted to change after the pictures I would have no problem with that. The reason doesn’t even matter. However, I’m hoping that since they picked out their own dresses, they won’t feel the need to change.

    Post # 25
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    As harsh/blunt as this might sound, I think you need to find a way to pay for alterations (temporary job, help from family member, get the $100 back from the bride for the 1st dress, etc) or just deal with it.  I think the PPs have given some really good suggestions for pretty simple, inexpensive alterations that should help a lot.

    I’d venture to bet that most of us here who have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man a couple of times have had a dress that we really didn’t feel comfortable in (I know I have).  But by agreeing to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, IMO you are agreeing to wear what the bride selects for the entire evening.  Then you never have to wear the dress ever again.

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