(Closed) Bridesmaid changing her dress

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Let her know in the nicest way possible that you’d really like for her to maintain the look of the bridal party during the reception because, of course, you are so honoured to have her as a bridesmaid and you wouldn’t want anyone to be confused as to her role in the wedding. Thn emphasise how lovely she looks in the gown (of course, she is prettier than all the other girls when she wears it, you will say) and how you were very much hoping to get some nice photos of all the bridesmaids at the reception dancing in their dresses and that it just won’t be the same if she is not in the pictures.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Personally I would want my BM’s to be comfortable and if that meant changing then I would let her. Just because she said ok to the dress doesn’t mean that she didn;t find it uncomfortable more likely she didn’t want to upset the apple cart. i think once all the formal stuff is over that requires photos then why can’t she get changed?

Post # 6
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For me, it would depend on why she wants to do it.  If it’s about comfort, then I think you should be reasonable and let her do it, but perhaps just ask her to wait until after the traditions at the beginning of the night are over (first dance, cake cutting, etc.).  If she’s doing it for attention, then I’d probably be less understanding and a bit more forceful about asking her not to do it.

ETA: Actually, I take that back.  Trying to figure out her motives probably won’t get you anywhere.  Just ask her to wait until the traditions/photo ops during the first part of the reception are over.  By then, I doubt you would notice anyway.

Post # 7
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Seriously, don’t get yourself too worked up about it. Don’t even bother trying to ask her why she feels compelled to change. Just flat out tell her that you’d appreciate it if she stayed in her bridesmaid dress long enough for the wedding traditions/activities where she’ll be in the photos. After that, you can’t really force her to stay in her dress.

One of my bridesmaids changed late into the reception and I didn’t even notice. As far as I’m concerned, she did her job and stayed in the dress through the pictures, ceremony, dinner, and toasts… that’s all that really matters, right?

 

@Bridezilla25:  Also the dresses were expensive and I feel sick at the thought that we’ve paid all that money for her to wear it for 2 hours then it get thrown in the back of a cupboard.

This is pretty much the reality of wedding and bridesmaid dresses, though. It’s worn for X amount of hours on one day, then disappears into a closet.

Post # 8
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think @Maraschino nailed it. If she wants to change after photo ops, let her, and don’t spend time worrying about it. You’ll have enough going on at your wedding and reception that if one bridesmaid feels like changing, you likely won’t notice!! 

Post # 9
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She should remain in the dress until all the introductions, toasts, dinner and wedding party dances are over. WTF is wrong with people and who do they think they are?

Post # 10
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9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@maraschino:  +1

Not worth getting upset over. I think you could ask her to stay in her dress until the pictures are mostly done and the events are done, but after that, let her do what she wants. And if some people don’t realise she’s  bridesmaid because they came late, that isn’t really a big deal.

Post # 11
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

At a wedding where I was a bridesmaid, one of the other bridesmaids changed at the reception. Mind you, this was back in the 90’s when it was popular to have big pink puffy dresses and this bridesmaid was in her teens whereas the rest of us were little kids.

I don’t think you should let it bother you too much. If she wants to, she wants to. You could always ask her if she wouldn’t mind keeping it on as it obviously means so much to you, but then this could cause friction.

Maybe you could come to a compromise such as she leaves it on until the dancing? Would that be any better?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Also the dresses were expensive and I feel sick at the thought that we’ve paid all that money for her to wear it for 2 hours then it get thrown in the back of a cupboard.

Even if she wears it the whole time it will be what-4 or 5 additional hours? If she wants to change, who cares? She will have stood in front of everyone, and been introduced at the reception….everyone will know she is a bridesmaid. Don’t take this so personally. Maybe there is a guy coming and she wants to wear something sexier-it could be a million things that have absolutely nothing to do with you.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I am allowing my girls to change half way in between if they feel like it.

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