Post # 1
Hello! I have noticed a lot of posts/comments about the cost of weddings for the BMs. I have purchased my BMs dresses and am paying for their hair and giving them the jewelry to wear. There is also a chance their makeup and shoes will be covered as well. I didn’t want them to have to pay to do something they would not have been spending $ on otherwise, and I want them to be part of my big day. In my group of friends, this is typical. The BMs cover bridal showers and bachelorette parties and typically still provide a gift. I’m just wondering if this is a very uncommon practice? What are your BMs costs going to be?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t say it is very uncommon — I think it depends on your social circles. If you have the money to pay for these things then that’s great, but there is no way I could have paid for all 4 of my bm’s.
My bm’s paid for: their dress & any alterations, their shoes, their hair, their make-up, my bridal shower, and my bachelorette party. We all split hotel costs the night before the wedding.
I paid for: their purse, their nails, a "goody bag", their jewelry, and a day at the spa before the wedding.
Post # 4
@caliocteach: A day at the spa would be amazing! Too bad that’s out of our budget by a long shot! I made sure to budget for their dresses, which means I won’t have that money to spend on a few other things, but in the end, I’d rather have them there. I’ve done a little more looking around and found lots of combinations for splitting costs. Thanks for the info!
Post # 5
In my circle of friends it is pretty common for the bridesmaids to be responsible for their own dress, shoes, and makeup, etc. In turn, the bride usually pays for bridesmaid gifts the day of.
My bridesmaids are paying for their dresses ($85) and silver/pewter flats of their choice. We are having a friend do hair and make up for all of them the day of so there are no costs there.
Post # 6
Wow I feel I should do more for my girls I am paying for each of their hotel rooms the night of the wedding. I’m thinking I may buy their jewelry too now!
Post # 7
I’ve never been a Bridesmaid or Best Man, so I don’t know what the "norm" is as far as costs. I didn’t have a bachelorette party, but did have a bridal shower. They didn’t pay or help with it (my family put in on), and really not all even went. They paid for their dress, shoes, hair, and makeup for my wedding.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
It definitely varys by social circle.
My BMs paid for: Their dress ($125). I wanted to pay for one "service" for them… be it hair, makeup, or nails… they all wanted to do their own hair/makeup, so we all went to get mani/pedis together on me. My Maid/Matron of Honor threw me my shower, she covered about $200 in expenses I think for it, and my mom covered the rest. They all paid for their own accommodations and food for my Bachelorette, and I didn’t have them cover any of my expenses on the Bach. trip (they bought me drinks of course, but I paid for my own lodging/travel/food). I bought their shoes.
I’ve only been in one wedding before, and I bought my own dress and shoes and paid for hair/makeup/travel/lodging (international travel) on my own as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. This was pretty standard to me as well (no complaints).
Post # 9
That is uncommon. The bridesmaids are supposed to pay for everything themselves. HOWEVER, if you want to and can afford to AND it is typical amongst your friends, then there is no problem it is a very gracious gesture and I am sure they appreciate it and since you said it is common, it will be “paid” back to you when you are in one of your friends weddings.
I am having my best friend from home (NYC now she lives in LA where the wedding will be), be my Maid/Matron of Honor, my cousin from The Netherlands and my FIs little sisters as bridesmaids. Their dresses were 330 (after tax) and their hair and make up is 270 (including gratuity and tip). Everyone except my Maid/Matron of Honor is traveling (including myself) and we are all staying at the hotel where the wedding will be (that was their choice, I actually wish I hadn’t suggested it because then I could have stayed for free with my o so sweet and drama free grandma). Other than that they have no expenses as we are not doing a lot of other traditional wedding activities since we are so scattered around the globe. I am giving them gifts which equal about 200-300/person and am also taking them to lunch at the Peninsula Hotel in Beverly Hills…so I think it all evened out.