(Closed) Bridesmaid costs spiraling out of control!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Tell her, she needs welcomed back into reality. a wedding is not an excuse to act like a snobby spoiled self-centered child on her part.

Post # 4
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah,  I would probably graciously inform my friend that while flattered she asked me to be a par of her big day, I would have to surrender my bridesmaid title to due to a monetary issue.

If she can’t understand that, shes really not a very good friend anyway.

Post # 5
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Let her know how much you can afford (or are willing) to contribute to her big day and that because of the expense, you’ll be unable to attend the bachelorette party.

Be kind and remind her that you love her and want to be a part of your day, but that costs are more than you had anticipated.

Post # 6
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just be honest with her about how you feel. I personally could never afford to be in a wedding where I had to pay $1,000, let alone $2,000!! If she’s a real friend, she’ll see where you’re coming from.

Post # 7
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374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Holy crap!  That’s a lot of money!  That is really expecting too much from people In My Humble Opinion.  I would tell her how you feel and let her know that you still want to be part of the wedding but you just can’t afford to.

Post # 8
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah, seriously. Unless she’s planning on footing some of the bills, she needs to lighten up the load on you. A bridesmaid’s job is to be there for the bride and assist her with her needs, not become homeless and destitute… I think anything over $500 is ridiculous, personally… Heck, I think $200 is asking a lot of someone, but bridesmaid dresses are disgustingly expensives these days.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should definitely have a conversation with her. As a bride who thinks that BMs take on financial responsibilities when they sign on, that is absolutely ridiculous. I feel bad asking my BM’s to pay about 500$ for everything and have been covering some of their costs to do so.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

How good of a friend are you? Because I tell you what. If one of my good friends was acting like this, I would smack a bitch until she realized she was on the planet Earth. who the fuck TELLS her bridesmaids that they HAVE to plan a 3 day B-party!? Is she on crack!? I would either talk to her yourself or maybe get together with the other girls and see how they are feelings. Maybe they all feel like this but no one wants to confront the bridezilla alone. If you have to gang up on her with three other girls then so be it. She is asking WAY too much! WAY TOO MUCH and somone needs to knock her out of the clouds. Hell! I would do it for you! 

Post # 11
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Um wow, yea you should tell her that you can’t afford this stuff. Definitely tell her your plan about the hotel reservations… don’t keep her in the dark or she will really go bridezilla on you! If I were in the situation, I would probably cut out the bachelorette (since it’s to pricey) and not give her a wedding gift. Then again, I’m all askew when it comes to wedding “etiquette”. 🙂

Post # 12
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1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow crazy! If you are close reason with her.  If you aren’t close quit.

Post # 13
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

LOL…I would change my cell number…close my email acct and MOVE.  Screw THAT!

Post # 14
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2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Friends don’t make friends spend $2000 when they can’t afford it. Tell her how much you can afford, and if she’s not okay with that, drop out of the wedding and the friendship.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Miss Tattoo: is there a LOVE button?! seriously! you need your own blog…. i would be a devoted reader! 🙂

and i agree OP! you need to tell her you just cant afford it… if she doesnt understand then she isnt a very good friend and id just cut my losses to be honest.

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