- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I know there’s a lot of posts about kids at the wedding, and people RSVP-ing with kids at a no-kids wedding, but I think this is a bit of a twist on the situation. My cousin, who is also one of my bridesmaids, emailed me the other day to say she is bringing her son to the wedding, and not to count him because he’ll just eat whatever they’re having. I just about passed out when I read this. I did NOT see this one coming. My first concern was, she’s my bridesmaid! Yes, her husband will be there, but let me tell you, he is not much of a hands-on dad. Every family function he has the kid for about 5 minutes and then it’s time for mama to have him back. Any time he fusses for a second, it’s, “Mama, your turn!” He even went as far as to bring him back to my now SIL’s bridal shower because he was tired of driving around with him. (All the guys had gone back to my grandmother’s to hang out until after the shower.) Not to be selfish (ok, a little) but how are you going to be my bridesmaid when you’re chasing a 2 year old? So my initial email back to her was ok, we’ll make him the ring bearer, but I just want to make sure you will still be able to enjoy yourself. She wrote me back and said, “Oh well (husband) can just stay home with him then, I’ll still be there.” I wrote back to her, no, I want your husband to be at my wedding, we’ll work something out. I talked to my fiance yesterday about it, and he is fuming. I mean, he is REALLY mad that my cousin did this. His main concern, of course, is that other people will be pissed that they couldn’t bring their kids. And I asked her if she was having a problem finding someone to watch him and that some of Paul’s cousins might not be able to make it because they can’t find anyone to watch their kids. She answered me without an answer to this and said the ringbearer idea was fine, she just didn’t want to start drama with Paul’s family since they couldn’t bring their kids. BINGO! So I HAVE to tell her she can’t bring him, but I guess that means her husband won’t come. That kind of sucks! What do I do? I really don’t think she would go for me choosing someone to watch her son, and it sounds like she really didn’t want to arrange for anyone she knows to watch him.