(Closed) Bridesmaid Decisions… Help!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 5
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m in a similar situation…  I’d say go for it.  Be brave.  The worst she can do is say no, right?

Post # 7
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Considering your history, I say ask her. I would forget about the gift and the thank you card, unfortunately thank you cards are rare these days. If she says yes, Great. If she says no, I would still invite her. I wish I had contact with my chidlhood best friend, because I would definately ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man too. Good Luck!

Post # 9
152 posts
Blushing bee

I would ask her.  I don’t really have any suggestions for how to do it though…how did you ask your other bridesmaids?

Post # 11
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Definitely ask. 🙂

Post # 12
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would say yes. One of my best friends growing up is one of my bridesmaids, even though we’ve grown apart. I have a few other friends that I’m in similar relationships with, just because I moved across the country after graduating from college. But there are certain people you just can’t imagine not having up there with you. I’ve known her almost my whole life. She’s my oldest friend. And even though I’m not her BFF, and she’s not mine, she’s still awesome. She sounds like my G, and I hope you follow your heart and don’t let silly time or distance get in the way!

Post # 13
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You should definitely ask her. Good friends are so rare these days especially a childhood friend you can still call friend. I have a very similar situation when my best friend from high school drifted apart over the years but we always said that we would be each other’s Maid/Matron of Honor. We’ve reconnected and found out that we’re both engaged. I’d moved on with my life but she said that I was still her Maid/Matron of Honor. Sad to say, I have a cousin who will be my Maid/Matron of Honor but would like to include her someway whether it’s a reading or being a hostess or something. Good Luck though. If you do ask your friend, the worst that could happen is that she says no. Either way she’ll be there for you on your special day.

Post # 14
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly, I would ask.  The worst she can do is say no that she can’t do it; but the only other possibility is that she will say yes.  I would definitely take the chance and just ask her and see!

Post # 15
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I definitely think you should ask her. The only weird blood you have with her is that you didnt get a thank you note for your beautiful pottery, which I am SURE she loved. Even if it didnt match her theme, who wouldnt love handmade a pottery set from a good friend? She should have sent you a thank you card, but you even said that she may have, and that it may have gotten lost. The worst that could happen, is that she would say no. It sounds like you would regret NOT asking her. Go for it! You have a lot of great history together.

Post # 16
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I echo @sschaf … definitely ask her.  I would send her an email letting her know that while you know that time and distance have changed your friendship, you’ve always considered her someone really important in your life and would love to have her stand with you on your big day.

I was going to suggest you call her and explain, but it sounds like an email in this case is more how you’ve been communicating lately, plus I always think email is better when you want to give the person the opportunity to consider and think the answer might be no… just my opinion, but for me it would be the better option.  I would want to know that I gave her the opportunity to think it over and if she’s going to decline, not have to force a potentially awkward conversation.

I’m sure she loved your pottery…even if it didn’t match anything else she had, I would think (hope!) she appreciated something that took so much time and thought, which is a really beautiful thing to do!

Good luck – and keep us posted!

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