Post # 1
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Busy bee
Me and my friends went out Friday night for a girl’s night. We went to dinner, went shopping, had a great time.
We were wandering around inside a shop when we came across a rack of jewelry, and one girl turns to me and asks if she needs to buy any certain jewelry. Since im providing it as part of their gift, i told her not to worry about the jewelry as it would be provided for her. Her response? “Well i will need to see it before the wedding then, so that if i dont like it i can buy something else.”
This rankles. It really does. They complained about the price of dresses, so i let them pick their own. They complained about the shoes i picked, so i bought them for them. Im paying for their hair and makeup, i paid for the MOH’s dress, i am providing the jewelry so they dont have to pay for it, and they are still getting gifts when they havent participated at all in anything for the wedding except one girl helping with the invitations and attending a dress fitting.
Ive made it as easy as possible on them, to the point that now i feel like im being taken advantage of. I dont know what the hell they want from me! I dont really know what i want from this, other than to just vent and get it off my chest
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
what did you say? i would have said, ‘that was kind of rude – it’s a gift. that means it’s my choice and everyone will be wearing the same jewelry for the wedding.’
if she brought it up again i would just ask her where this attitude is coming from and why she feels so entitled. i bet she doesn’t have an answer other than she’s being a cow.
that is SERIOUSLY rude.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
She asked if you wanted her to buy something specific, and then when you said you were providing it, said she would get something different if she doesn’t like it? Why did she even bother asking!?
I’m sorry to hear that your girls are being difficult 🙁 As if being a bride isn’t stressful enough.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
peonyinlove: i didnt really say anything, i was just in shock.
Justbrynne: thanks, it really is so stressful in these last few months
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
Wow, sorry she’s being an ungrateful brat. How did you respond? Does she understand the concept of you wanting them to match?
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Seriously, am i really expected to give them gifts way before the wedding so that if they dont like them they have time find better stuff? Really? I intend to give the gifts to them either at rehearsal or the bach party, both of which are the day before the wedding.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Pinkmoon: i dont know if she does or not, ive never really discussed it with her
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
Some of these posts I read are wildly ridiculous and some people have the biggest set of balls. You are definitely better than me because you are going above and beyond for these “friends” (and I use that word loosely) and they are giving you their ass to kiss. If its REALLY that important to have bridemaids then keep them I guess but afterwards it may be time to seriously reevaluate these people in your life.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
CocoClassic: i would just tell them all to forget it but that would cause embarrassment for me when i have nobody on my side and Fiance has five on his, plus this particular girl already bought her dress. im glad you understand where im coming from
Post # 10
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Busy bee
MrsWinTraining2014: your wedding your choice of jewelry! So rude! If I was in someone’s wedding and they wanted me to wear a hideous dress with hideous jewelry that I hated I would do it because it’s not my wedding! Seriously!!
Post # 11
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Busy bee
LittleE3: Thanks for the support. It makes it all that much worse because i tried to pick something that was neutral and rewearable, ignoring my own style and finding soemthing that was pretty and neutral colors. i know she hasnt seen it yet but it makes me angry to think that she would just dismiss it like that
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
MrsWinTraining2014: WOAH! I hope you call her out on it (at least a little bit), because that’s horribly rude! I’d probably just say something like “I hope you like it, because I do! Even if you don’t wear it again, I’d appreciate if you’d wear it today, for me” I’m sorry your girls are making things so difficult for you, no one deserves that!
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
I got my Maid/Matron of Honor earrings as a gift and gave them to her the day of the wedding. She had already purchased her own jewellery for the day though. I personally wouldn’t make my bridal party wear certain jewellery. There is a certain line where you have to let them still be themselves and not control everything there wear that day. Just my opinion. I do think your friend is being rude though. She should have kept her mouth shut and wait to recieve the jewellery.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
CarterLove: they are choosing the biggest part of their look, the dress. the only things i chose for them is the shoes and jewelry. They can pick their own hairstyle, im paying for it to be done. They can choose their own nail style, and im paying for it. im giving them two sets of shoes so they can change for the reception. I really dont see where they have any room to complain
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
MrsWinTraining2014: I am not saying you are being demanding. I just personally see jewellery as a small part that it just would not matter to me. But you’re the bride and they should be a little more flexible with you. It’s great that you’re giving them SOME say.
You may eventually need to speak with them about your frustrations. Your friend is being rude and you should not have to deal with that. Good luck.
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