(Closed) Bridesmaid demanding to see her gifts before the wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
2300 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

what did you say? i would have said, ‘that was kind of rude – it’s a gift. that means it’s my choice and everyone will be wearing the same jewelry for the wedding.’

if she brought it up again i would just ask her where this attitude is coming from and why she feels so entitled. i bet she doesn’t have an answer other than she’s being a cow. 

that is SERIOUSLY rude. 

Post # 3
2925 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

She asked if you wanted her to buy something specific, and then when you said you were providing it, said she would get something different if she doesn’t like it? Why did she even bother asking!?

I’m sorry to hear that your girls are being difficult 🙁 As if being a bride isn’t stressful enough. 

Post # 5
10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Wow, sorry she’s being an ungrateful brat. How did you respond? Does she understand the concept of you wanting them to match? 

Post # 8
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Some of these posts I read are wildly ridiculous and some people have the biggest set of balls. You are definitely better than me because you are going above and beyond for these “friends” (and I use that word loosely) and they are giving you their ass to kiss. If its REALLY that important to have bridemaids then keep them I guess but afterwards it may be time to seriously reevaluate these people in your life.

Post # 10
861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

MrsWinTraining2014:  your wedding your choice of jewelry! So rude! If I was in someone’s wedding and they wanted me to wear a hideous dress with hideous jewelry that I hated I would do it because it’s not my wedding! Seriously!!

Post # 12
1968 posts
Buzzing bee


MrsWinTraining2014:  WOAH! I hope you call her out on it (at least a little bit), because that’s horribly rude! I’d probably just say something like “I hope you like it, because I do! Even if you don’t wear it again, I’d appreciate if you’d wear it today, for me” I’m sorry your girls are making things so difficult for you, no one deserves that!

Post # 13
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I got my MOH earrings as a gift and gave them to her the day of the wedding. She had already purchased her own jewellery for the day though. I personally wouldn’t make my bridal party wear certain jewellery. There is a certain line where you have to let them still be themselves and not control everything there wear that day. Just my opinion. I do think your friend is being rude though. She should have kept her mouth shut and wait to recieve the jewellery.

Post # 15
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014


MrsWinTraining2014:  I am not saying you are being demanding. I just personally see jewellery as a small part that it just would not matter to me. But you’re the bride and they should be a little more flexible with you. It’s great that you’re giving them SOME say.

You may eventually need to speak with them about your frustrations. Your friend is being rude and you should not have to deal with that. Good luck.

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