Post # 1
So tell me if I’m crazy on this one…Fiance and I are both in the bridal party for a wedding in October. We received our invitation in the mail (we live together) and the outside envelope was only adressed to him. Weird, I thought. Anywho- so I open up the envelope and our actual invitation says “Ryan and Guest”. I flipped out! I couldn’t believe that a) as an engaged couple (that lives together) I wasn’t added on the invite and b) I’m in the wedding!!! Am I going crazy on this or would you be upset too? I’d love to hear some opinions on this one!
I’m thinking our wedding gift could be an Emily Post book…thoughts?
Post # 3
Sounds like a clerical error or something.
For instance- I forgot to put my parents on the seating chart! Obviously they were coming, I just so took it for granted that I forgot about them.
Also- perhaps the person addressing the envelopes didn’t know all the guests and didn’t realize?
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Um, WHAT? I would DEFINITELY bring it up to the bride. Ask her if she intends to list you as “Guest” on the program. 😉
Post # 5
Oh, I would have FLIPPED OUT. That’s so rude!
Post # 6
burned, totally! you could mark the reply card as such. Mr<span style=”text-decoration: underline;”>. Ryan and Guest and see if they notice.
Post # 7
That’s weird, but I wouldn’t go crazy about it – you ARE in the wedding party, after-all! I’d mention it to the bride – in an almost joking fashion to see what she says. It’s an obvious goof – and I can’t imagine it was intended as a stub of ANY fashion.
Post # 8
That’s really weird, I’d talk to the bride, hopefully it was just a mistake that they didn’t catch.
Post # 9
Agree… Hopefully this was a clarical error. I would definaly ask the bride about it. But i’d find a tacktful kind of joknig way to ask about it. Maybe start by asking hwo she managed to get everything accomplished. Maybe ask if she had help with things like addressing their invites. Just that alone may clarify what happened. If she had people help who didn’t know the situation.
Post # 10
Well … I sent out invites just as one of fiances cousins got engaged .. so they got theirs and it said __(and guest)__ for the fiance. Ooops. Wait. You’re the bridesmaid and they sent the invite to your fiance?
Post # 11
For those of you wanting additional info…I’d like to add that I’ve hung out w/the bride MAYBE 3 times. I just moved to Nashville (where the wedding is) earlier this year, and she asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. She wanted 8 Bridesmaid or Best Man, no questions asked. Problem? She didn’t have 8 friends. Current situation? None of the BMs like her. So this isn’t like my best friend that just made a goof on her invites. This girl only cares about herself and numbers. Lesson learned: Fiance and I both agree wel’l talk it out together before readily accepting another bridal party invitation.
Post # 12
Accidental error or not, this is a definite reminder to triple-check everything, because feelings can get hurt over stuff like this.
Last year, my (first) cousin got married and we all got our invites in the mail. My sister’s was addressed to Katherine. My sister’s name is Katie, it’s the name on her birth certificate and the name everyone has always called her. Even if he was unsure, a two-second phone call to my mom would have confirmed it. He blamed the bride and her family (they did the invites) but my sister definitely felt badly about it.
Post # 13
I’m willing to be it was a definitely unintentional error. Did she have someone else do the calligraphy on her invites? It could be that the file was just missing you since she obviously knows you’re coming! I’d give her the benefit of the doubt on this one 🙂
Post # 14
Is she super-involved in the wedding? It sounds like the kind of mistake that would happen if she handed the guest list off to her parents to address or something… which is way more common outside of the Weddingbee world. I wouldn’t worry about it, although some joking about it would certainly be acceptable.
Post # 15
Ew I’d be so annoyed. Then again, I probably would have politely declined to be a bridesmaid for a self-centered girl I had only met three times. You are clearly much nicer than I am!
Post # 16
Not sure about your Fiance + guest thing, but I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding last spring, and was adamant that the bride did not need to send me an invite. She was inviting pretty much everyone she ever knew, so I told her to use it on someone else – I mean I clearly knew I was going to be at the wedding and I knew all the details. Unless someone wants to keep the invite for sentimental reasons, which I didn’t, I just don’t get it! LOL But that’s just me =)