(Closed) Bridesmaid dilema!!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you dont owe anyone an explanation…. if she asks why shes not in the wedding, tell her…. otherwise, dont. i say dont have her in the wedding. bms are supposed to be there to support you and help you out and it sounds like she would not be able to since.

Post # 4
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have been “best friends” with this girl since I was two years old.  I rarely see her anymore, we send each other Christmas cards every year (I got hers today!) and we go out for lunch once every year or so, and that’s it.  Before I moved away, we were the closest friends you’ve ever seen in any sappy chick flick.  Life gets busy, people grow apart, but that doesn’t mean you don’t still have a special relationship.  I will be taking her out for lunch early next year and asking her to be my bridesmaid – because even though we don’t know each other that well anymore, I honestly cannot imagine doing this without her. I would not.

I don’t think the fact that you have lost touch is a good enough reason to ditch your friend.  She has a family and she lives far away – maybe she just doesn’t get much opportunity to keep in touch.  That doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to or doesn’t think about you.  Is this the only reason you’re considering excluding her?  Because if you were as close to her as I was to mine, I don’t really think that’s fair.  It’s your right, of course, but unfair.  That said, DO NOT ask her purely out of obligation.  That’s not fair to you, either.  That would be silly.

If you honestly would prefer that she not be a bridesmaid, then she doesn’t have to be.  But you should invite her to the wedding and you can even give her other roles so she still feels included.

Post # 6
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So don’t ask her.

Post # 8
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971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Just because you were in her wedding doesn’t mean she has to be in yours. 

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