Post # 1
I have a small problem and was looking for some input. To make things easier on both my myself and my bridesmaids i’ve decided to go the whole different dress-same color route. That way everyone feels comfortable with the amount they spend and the amount of skin showing.
My problem is my maid of honor (who is the BEST friend anyone could ask for, who is so sweet and is as excited for my wedding as I am) has recently lost a TON of weight and loves showing off her body, which I totally get! She looks fantastic! So I was expecting something along the lines of this: http://www.victoriassecret.com/ss/Satellite?ProductID=1265530571224&c=Page&cid=1304338694548&pagename=vsdWrapper
Or even this: http://www.victoriassecret.com/ss/Satellite?ProductID=1265530691203&c=Page&cid=1304338694548&pagename=vsdWrapper
But instead she chose these:
This one isn’t so bad
They fit her like a glove and come up about 6 inches above her knees. I understand we are having a semi-formal wedding on the beach… But I think this is taking the semi a little too far.. Or is it just me being old fashioned?!?!
HELP! How do I let her know nicely that I would prefer her to wear something a little more loose and long?! I’ve tried to tactfully point out it was rather snug and short, but because the other women in the dressing rooms were complimenting her it was hard to get my point across
Post # 3
The link to the dress she chose isn’t visible for me, however I would just tell her” You look fabulous in that dress, but I would prefer something not so snug and a little longer.”
Post # 4
Hint that the other girls have longer dresses and it will look out of place… at least she only spent 10 dollars!
Post # 5
I don’t think it looks too bad but since it is so cheap I doubt she would have a problem with you telling her that you were wanting something not so fitted. Maybe you could suggest she wear that dress out at your bachlerette party and you two look at dresses together with each other.
Post # 6
The second link you posted, Forever 21 is a really pretty dress I think. Ask her to go with that one. If you still think it’s to short/tight just send her a few other possiblities and she’ll probably get the hint that you think the one she picked is a bit too much. Maybe send her images of the dresses your other girls have picked. If she’s sending you links to dresses she’s considering then she’s obviously asking for your input, give it to her tactfully and you’ll probably be fine.
Post # 7
@aloha.chick: I think the dress is really cute.
Post # 8
I had an issue where I let my bridesmaids choose their own shoes- and one sent me a picture of leather stripper shoes- only she was serious. I told her they were great for the bachelorette party or rehearsal dinner, but that I felt they weren’t quite in line with my wedding style and then sent her a few links of things that were more what I was thinking. She was great about it and totally understood. I think if you are just honest with her, that it is your wedding and you want it to be just a bit more conservative than those dresses- as your Maid/Matron of Honor she really should respect you and understand. I think if you are honest and direct with her, you’ll both be happy.