- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Okay so I need some advice from fellow brides. I currently have 4 bridesmaids, I was careful in selecting them, all are family except one is a friend that I have known for 20+ years. I knew I did not want more than four because I like bridal parties when they are smaller.
I had two friends that I did not choose because our friendship has been kind of rocky the last few years, we have drifted apart but still keep in contact. I was really torn since I have know these two girls since pre-school (3 Musketeers type thing) and always imagined they would be standing up in my wedding always, but things happen, time goes by and sometimes you drift apart. On top of it all one of the girls’ recently went through a bad break-up, is a single mom, working three jobs and I did not want to put the financial burden on her, (she was struggling to make her house pymnt).
Okay, so onto the issue. My friend that is the recent single mom talked to a fellow bridesmaid and admitted she is really hurt that I did not ask her to stand up in the wedding (REALLY sad). Now I am really torn about what to do….I know I need to speak to her but I am not sure what all to say that I haven’t said before.
This has bugged me from the beginning of the wedding, I was constantly debating whether or not to put her in the wedding….I just don’t know what to do, advice anyone? Should I put her in or not? If not what should I say, I really don’t want to hurt her feelings eventhough I already have….