(Closed) Bridesmaid Dilemma

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2013

One thing I learned is that you can’t worry about hurting feelings. It is your day and you need to make sure you feel special.  People will understand – especially if you have lots of family.  Don’t feel pressure to do anything you don’t want to do to make people happy.  They all just want you to feel special.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

hmmm… tough one. Considering the state of their relationship, and your feeling that most of your connection now is via your FI’s brother, her Boyfriend or Best Friend, AND the fact that your wedding isn’t this summer, but 2013…. I’d say trust your instincts and not ask her to be a bm.

If she’s still a friend that you want to invite as a guest, go ahead! but you don’t need to decide that until NEXT year at least. and then you’ll see what has happened and how your friendship has grown or changed.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Have you asked anyone to be in your wedding yet?  Your wedding, if the date is correct, is a long way off.  You don’t need to ask anyone yet.  That, and most people (myself included) recommend waiting until you’re 6-9 months out.  It helps relationships solidify.  A lot of the posts on here complaining about bridesmaids come from people who think they should’ve waited to ask or felt pressure to ask someone.

Seriously, try to wait it out and see what happens.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with Kewii! I’m still in the planning process for my wedding, but one thing I wish I would have waited on is asking my Bridesmaid or Best Man right away. It’s amazing how relationships change over the course of a year. Maybe wait till closer to when it’s time to pick out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses to ask the girls. If you feel this girl should be apart of your wedding just maybe not a Bridesmaid or Best Man, maybe you could consider her for a personal attendent? Good luck on your decision! And remember it’s your wedding. You should be doing what makes you and your fiance happy not what makes everyone else happy.

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