(Closed) Bridesmaid dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Personally, in your situation I would have your best friend be Maid/Matron of Honor and have the two sisters and SIL be your wedding party. You’ll be able to invite your two out of town friends to your rehearsal dinner, and if you wanted to make special time for them you could always do breakfast with them the day of the wedding before you start getting ready (depending on how early your ceremony is). I’m sure your friends will understand keeping your wedding party mostly family except your bestie?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Why is having just one not OK with your Fi, given he is cool with you not asking his sisters? Just curious.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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missc2mrsg :  I don’t think it’s weird at all, I think when people put a personal or individual element to a ceremony it’s a really nice touch. I think a harpist would be beautiful at a ceremony! 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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missc2mrsg :  I think honoring them in that way sounds great!

I had a similar dilemma for my future ~100 person wedding. I wanted 2, my Fiance did not. We discussed 3 because any bigger seemed silly, but I was so sad that I wasn’t able to ask ALL of my close friends. Then I talked to my mom and she said if they’re great friends and you want them by your side, ask them! You only get married once.

Long story short, instead of 2 we now have 5 bridesmaids/groomsmen each. I think it’ll be fine.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would ask your fiance’s sisters and your new sister in law to be bridesmaids and your best friend to be Maid of Honor. I would not ask your University friends, it sounds like you’re drifting from them and there’s no guarntee you’ll be close in the future. 

In my family it’s standard that all siblings are in the wedding so I asked my fiance’s sisters to be bridesmaids and its been great! I’ve gotten so much closer with them. So I definitely think it’s important to have family in the wedding

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

If I were in your shoes I’d tell my Fiance that he doesn’t get to be soo demanding AND soo inflexible. You can’t have it both ways! That’s super obnoxious IMO. Sounds like you’re throwing compromises around and he’s rejecting them all. Not cool. 

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