- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2019
I’m getting married next summer and starting to get questions on who i’ll have as attendants. There is one person who is going to be there, no questions asked as she’s my best friend and has been a huge support to both me and my partner. The dilemma is the rest of them… ( I asked Fiance about having just one, that was a no go for him!)
He has two sisters. I like them, we get along. They live in the same city as us, and feels like they will be doing the bulk of the wedding related stuff with me as my family is far away as is the bestie.
I have two very close friends from University. I’ve been living overseas for the last 7 years, so we haven’t seen much of one another, but I am still close to them, and called them both with the news of the engagement before making it public. Trouble is, one of them is on a SUPER tight budget as shes getting married pretty soon as well, and they’ll have to travel to be at the wedding (which they’ve said they’ll happily do) and the other is just out of law school and so insanely busy she literally never stops working. They also live on the opposite side of the country. I want to include them, but realistically, it would be just for the day and id be worried about adding stress to them. I really would like them there with me on the morning of as my oldest friends though :/
Lastly, my brand new sister in law. She and my brother got married this month and I was her maid of honour. She’s perfectly nice, and I have no issue with her whatsoever, but like my friends and family, she lives on the opposite side of the country. We aren’t close, and while I don’t have any issue with having her around on the day of, I also wouldnt be bothered by not having her around. It really would be asking her just for the sake of making my brother and parents happy.
I’d really like to keep it to an absolute maximum of 5…and even that feels huge to me! Its only a 100 person wedding for heavens sake!
Fiance says just drop his sisters as they’ll be around to help anyways regardless of if I ask them to be bridesmaids, but I would be sad to not have them around on the morning of as I really do enjoy them. Plus, if I dont ask them, there will be no one to do the traditional pre-wedding stuff with :/ So neither feels like a good option.
My heart says, find a way to gently tell SIL and Brother that they’ll be honoured guests…. but thats potentially a bag of drama waiting to happen if I ask his sisters and not her.
I’m sure to someone on the outside it seems like a storm in a teacup…but its weighing on my mind a lot and i’m hoping someone can give me some suggestions or advice.