Post # 1
I’m trying to figure who will be my bridesmaids and I already have 3 definites – my two sisters and my future SIL. My best friend is my Maid/Matron of Honor. We are having a small wedding and we’re on a tight budget, so I want to keep the bridal party small. However, I’m worried my friends will be hurt if they’re not in the wedding.
There’s occasional in-fighting in our circle of friends, and I don’t want any of that at the wedding. Plus, I wouldn’t know where to cut it off. There’s two friends I’d like in the wedding, but there’s a couple that I consider friends but I’m not as close with. But I don’t want them to be hurt either.
Has anyone run into this and what did you do?
Post # 3
How long until your wedding? If you still have quite a while, I’d just wait it out and see how things go. Don’t select a wedding party until about 9 months out.
Also, there’s no reason to have any additional BMs if you don’t want to. Your friends should understand that you want a smaller wedding party and are on a budget.
Post # 4
That sounds like toxic friendships, I don’t know how or why people live like that.
If you are happy with your bridal party don’t add people to it. Explain to your friends why you made those choices, and then ignore them. Also don’t pick girls who are going to amp up the drama. There nothing worse then having bridesmaids who are fighting through the whole the process.
You can’t control what other people do, you can only control your own behavior. So if there negativity and drama ignore it and don’t feed into it.
Post # 5
I would stop at that, you already have 4 girls that seems to make perfect sense, adding more just seems like setting yourself up for trouble. Your other friends will be invited to the wedding itself, would they really be hurt if they weren’t assigned a role?
Post # 6
Hey, I would also just leave at that because it is your special day and you should be the one to do as YOU want and not how you feel you are “forced” to by other people. A friend of mine had the same dilemma and she just decided to have an open bachelorette weekend and bridal shower so that all the girls were there but she really just had her close friends in the wedding party..
Post # 7
I agree with you and the previous posters. Having fewer people standing up with you will streamline your entire experience, and leaving dramatic friends out of the bridal party will only help you in the long run. Embrace your party of four and pat yourself on the back–this is a totally wise decision!