- 4 years ago
Hello there bees,
So an old high school friend of mine sent me an invitation to be a bridesmaid at her wedding next October. Her and I were somewhat close in high school, and still talk every now and then but not super close anymore. I still knew she was engaged and getting married and I wanted to go to her wedding, but was not expecting to be invited to be a part of it!
A part of me is touched since I think it’s sweet of her to consider me, since I had considered her in my mind for when I get married one day…
Now my dilemma is, I am a very self concious person when it comes to my legs.. I mean I don’t wear dresses unless they’re to the floor, no shorts, no skirts, no yoga pants, nothing that really shows them… yes I wear jaens and I am sure people can somewhat tell what they look like but I am just painfully self concious. I avoided wearing a dress in high school graduation and went to the extent of asking the principal for permission to wear pants, and was the only girl wearing dress pants that day! Same with my college graduation..
I have looked at her pinterest and I am pretty sure she wants to do the short bridesmaid dress with cowgirl style boots, since it’ll probably be a country style wedding.
I can’t tell her I am busy because I still want to be there, but I just don’t know what to do? I got the invitation today, so I am sure she is waiting for my reply soon.. I could tell her about my issue but it just feels so petty when I talk about it, even though inside it trully bugs me…
I also don’t know much about wedding traditions or etiquette, I have only attended one my whole life as a guest and don’t know many people that are married so don’t know if I have to buy things, or she does, whats rude what’s not.. whether I should ask her if I can wear a long dress and if she says no, then decline, which seems rude to me.. or just say yes and suck it up… sigh
I guess I forgot to explain, the issue with my legs is I am very tall, like 5’9 and weigh like 125.. so I am very skinny.. I was even more underweight as akid so my bones never got too big.. and so I have like little kid legs in a tall body.. my legs would look funny swimmming in the cowgirl boots.. sigh haha
So I am looking for advice, and also guidance on general wedding etiquette.. I could try to gain some weight until then, but I have tried my whole life (I am 23) and can never go above 125… and when I do gain some it always goes to my stomach, never legs or arms so man.. such a silly issue..
Would you decline? if so how? would you go?