- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
If you read my last thread I had a slight issue with one of my bridesmaids. (Lets call her Laura)
Summary:Basically my Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing me a bachelorette party this weekend. She sent out the invites over a month ago and asked if everyone can rsvp by a certain time, so she could get a head count for the limo (the cost of the limo is determined by how big it is, so she needed to know the # of ppl attendeding.) Anyways everyone rsvp except Laura. When we finally got a hold of her, she said she was trying to get off work, but at that time, she was on the schedule and said she would come anyway, although she may be late. Laura lives in a completly different city. My Maid/Matron of Honor, and myself told her that the limo is coming at a certain time and if she came after the limo took off, we would worry about her finding us in a city that she didnt know, (Plus I havent lived here that long so I dont know it well either, hence why we got the limo.) So we said in the nicest way possible if you cant make it before the limo comes, it would best not to come and I will make some time to come into town and we can celebrate together just the two of us. In the end she said ok, and she would let us know if she gets the day off work or not.
We havent heard from since, and her my Maid/Matron of Honor asked me if I could call her bc she hasnt responded to her and she doesnt know her well and thought she may respond to me.
I finally got a hold of her last night. She said she got the day off work and actually said to me “Please stop meddaling, let your Maid/Matron of Honor handle it. I don’t know why you are calling me asking me if I can make it. I was planning on calling your Maid/Matron of Honor in a few days.” ummm.. the party is in a few days!!! I told her that my Maid/Matron of Honor asked me to call her bc she couldnt get a hold of her, and even though I was a bit perturb by her attitude I said well anyways I am glad you are off work and can make it! Then she said ” I was always going to make it, I just wasnt sure if I was coming after the limo arrivd or not”
Which her response was baffling bc I thought we made it clear, it would be a big struggle to try and find us in the city, and honestly if would probably be difficult for us to hear our phones over the loud music, and plus we will probably be well on our way to being tipsy by that point. Also the limo is going to several different places where parking is not prevalent. I told her that again and she just ignored me and changed the subject.
Anyways, I appreciate her wanting to come, but I don’t understand why she wont listen to me and my Maid/Matron of Honor about the importance of being on time for the limo. For her sake!! I am still kinda afraid she will come after the limo even though she is off work for the day anyway. Everyone just keeps telling me not to worry about it, if she shows up late it is on her to find us.
But I am not like that. I cant just sit back and relax while I know a friend is trying to drive around a city she doesnt know at night trying to find us, even if it is her fault. MY Maid/Matron of Honor knows this, and is upset bc she knows I wont be able to relax about it and doesnt want me stressing at my own party.
I hope she shows up on time, but if she doesnt any tips? Should I just not worry about it? She is an adult and she knew the time?
Also, on a sidenote and sorry this is getting long, I have emailed all my bridesmaids last month about setting up a hair and make up appt of them for the wedding. Everyone responded but Laura. Some wanted me to make them appt, some said they would get their own done. So last night Laura also said to me she has found a great person to do my hair for the wedding. I calmly told her I already found some one and she said “cancel her, my girl is better”
At that point I just felt really upset. She oviously doesnt read any of my text, emails, or listen to any of my vms so now I am scared that she wont be able to be on time for the wedding. I know I need to have a heart to heart with her, but when I do get her on the phone, she doesnt seem to stay on for more than a minute or 2. She always makes up an excuse to get off.
I really don’t know what is going with her. Is she just not thinking clearly, is something going on in her life that she doesnt want me to know, is she doing this delibertly? I am really not sure.
I am sorry for the long rant. I just needed to get this off my chest. Any advice on how to handle this. I know I need to relax and let my moh handle the bachelorette party, but like I said its not that easy for me.
Thanks bees for reading!