- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2018
My Fiance is having 6 groomsmen and I would like the number of my bridesmaids to be even. He has a very solid “group” of guy friends – theyve all been friends since high school. I don’t have a group – none of my close girl friends know each other. They are special to me in different ways and I know them all from different stages of my life.
I have asked my first four – three of my closest friends and my fiance’s sister (he insisted I have his sister on my side) which leaves me with two spots left.
The dilemma I face – two of his groomsmen have girlfriends who we are close with. I know both girls are really wanting to be in my bridal party as their boyfriends will be in it, and both have reached out lately offering to be there and help out with anything I need.
I think if I do not ask them, I think their feelings will be hurt and they will feel left out. I like them both as well, but I have two other friends I am closer with.
In other words I like these girls very much and they’ve been around me and my fiance and know us as a couple more than any of my other friends, but if it werent for their relationships with my fiance’s best friends, we probably would not be close.
details on girlfriends 1 and 2:
girlfriend #1 I click with the most but her relationship to groomsmen #1 is volatile and there is no guarantee that they would still be together by the wedding date, but fiance and I are closest with this couple.
girlfriend #2 is so sweet and has really stepped up lately in being a great friend to me, but we don’t click on that extra special level, hoever her and groomsmen #2 will definitely be next to get married so there is no fear that a breakup will happen before the wedding.
My other two friends – one I have been close with since we were 10 years old – however she is not a girly girl and probably couldnt care less about being a bridesmaid. I cant imagine her enjoying the idea of spending a lot of money on a bridesmaid dress, or getting into taking photos and going to parties… but I love her so much. We text all the time and see each other pretty often.
The other friend of mine is an old college roommate and we also keep in touch – mail each other birthday and christmas gifts. I love her too, but I don’t thiiiink she would think twice if I didn’t ask her to be in my wedding.
I would not ask only one of the groomsmen’s girlfriends to be in the wedding and not the other. In my head its either the two girlfriends who would be thrilled to be in the bridal party, or my other two friends from my life before my fiance who I connect with on a special level, but most likely wouldnt care if they weren’t asked to be in the bridal party.
What would you do?
(and I have a feeling a lot of responses are – this is YOUR day.. don’t worry about other people’s feelings – but I will. I always will worry about others feelings. In fact it is JUST as important to my happiness that other people are happy)
Any creative solutions or out-of-the-box ideas? (besides having more bridesmaids than groomsmen – I want even stevens on that. I’m weird about symmetry)
Just want to hear thoughts and hopefully make my decision soon because I know Its about time for me to do my asking and surprisingly this is the only wedding-planning that has stressed me out a bit.