Bridesmaid Dilemma – who to choose

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Oh, and if you want to include the girlfriends, there are so many ways to ask them to be part of your day and make them feel included 🙂

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Definitely choose your friends you are closest to. There is no need to pick the girlfriends just because they are dating groomsmen. They’ll get over it. And don’t not ask your friend just because she’s a tomboy! That would be her decision to make. 

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper

You may be weird about symmetry but etiquette is weird about the fact that people are not props. It is much weirder to me to see people who are not close to the bride used for the sake of a photo. 

That said, it sounds as if you would ideally like to ask your friends but think the cost and responsibility may be too much for them. The solution there is to adjust your expectations and leave the decision up to them. The only real obligation your BMs have is to stand up for you on the day. You should be choosing dresses with everyone’s budget and tastes in mind. They have no obligation to plan or attend your parties. That’s optional and voluntary. 

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