- Newport Nuptials
- 13 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
I got engaged in October and since my wedding will be two years after the date I got engaged, I wanted to wait a little before asking the bridal party. A few of my friends and sister threw us an engagement party and I think they are hurt I still haven’t asked them, one girl has made a couple of comments.
The thing is, I actually have tried to ask them. I made my decision at the end of December, a couple weeks before the engagement party. Before they booked the place, I sent them an invitation to go to Newport for a night to go to a Bridal show. I found a great deal on a hotel and was planning on asking there, but then they booked the engagement party on that night, so that didn’t work out.
Next, I told the girl’s I wanted to do a signature drink tasting for the party (made up as a way to get them all together). I sent an invitation to my future bridesmaids and stupidly forgot to save it when I changed the status to private, so another friend saw and invited herself, so my plan on doing it that night didn’t work.
That was the week before the party. So I didn’t have time to do it on another day before the party. I sent them all messages and said I wanted to take them to Bride Wars for a girls day to thank them for the amazing party. Two girls responded, then another one made plans and ended up seeing it. So that didn’t work out.
I sent a fourth message saying that since that day didn’t work out, I wanted them to pick a day that we could all get together and I wanted to do something nice for them as a thank you. I gave them dates that would work in the near future. My sister responded with the days she could do it and two others said tehy could do any day. The one who hasn’t responded is the one who keeps asking me when I am going to do it.
At this point, should I keep trying to get them together or should I just send them in the mail and/or do it individually? I made them each a scrapbook explaining why I want them in the bridal party with the question, Will you be my bridesmaid? at the end. I got them each a little thank you gift and note as well for the party and am contemplating whether or not I should just send the note, because it has been a little over two weeks since the party and I don’t want them to think I am ungrateful. I have verbally told them how nice it was, but I think a thank you note is real important.
I have asked my isster to be my Maid of Honor, I am just trying to get everyone together and do something nice to ask, but it is starting to stress me out. Any ideas or opinions? I would really appreciate some help on this one!