(Closed) Bridesmaid dilemma..can you take back your bridesmaid request? **LONG RANT**

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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  • Wedding: September 2012

@angie.derek.anderson: Hi Angie,

 

Wow. Sounds like you are in a really tough spot. I understand completely why you are so upset. What does your husband think about this? Does he think you should kick her out of the wedding party?

I guess the question you need to ask yourself is: will eliminating her from the bridal party get rid of your anger and resentment? My guess is probably no. You will always be hurt and upset with her for taking you and your husband for granted. Unfortunately, she is still your sister-in-law and she will always be a part of your life. Do you want to spend the next 5 to 10 years listening to your family or your SIL complain about your decision? I know it’s a crappy spot to be in but it may save you A LOT of drama in the long run if you just sucked it up and left her in. However, if you feel that strongly about kicking her out then you should definitely go with your gut. But you need to be ready for the consequences that may follow.

Post # 5
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  • Wedding: September 2012

Angie,

I am in a very similar situation to you so I can completely sympathize. I asked my brother’s wife to be a bridesmaid and she recently told me she couldn’t afford the 168 dollar dress I picked out so she was dropping out of the wedding party. She recently had a baby so I completely understand her financial dilema. But she has had over a year to save for the dress. I have done so much for this woman and she does not appreciate me whatsoever. She expects favours all the time but does absolutely nothing in return. To top it off, recently I found out through Facebook, she asked her brother’s girlfriend to be her daughter’s godmother! They’ve been dating less than a year and I’m her husband’s only sibling!! I understand what it feels like to be completely unappreciate, unloved and rejected. I would not blame you in the slightest for kicking your husband’s sister out of the wedding party. I feel terrible his family has lied to you as well. But just remember: you cannot control other people. Their shortcomings are their problem, not yours. You are marrying your husband because you love him and he treats you well. You aren’t marrying his family. You are just marrying into it. Soon you will have your own family and that is where your loving and caring personality will shine! Don’t waste it on them 🙂

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