- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Help! Okay, so me and hubs are having a real wedding next November. Last December I made the mistake of asking my 17 yr old sister in law to be a bridesmaid. This was before all this drama happened. His sister was going through a really rough time, and we offered her to stay with us when she graduated high school. Well she wanted to move asap, not what we wanted, but we said okay to help her out. So she finished the half of senior year with us, in a new state, new school, etc. The 3rd week she was here, it was my birthday..we had a little get together at my house. She asked if she could bring friends over, and we said okay..no harm in that..she’s new, so friends are good. Well she comes over bringing about 6-7 people over..1 girl, the rest guys. Not what we were expecting. The night goes on, me and my friends are playing games and drinking, and she’s in her room with all those guys playing games. We weren’t too happy with that, but whatever. So the later it gets, my hubs tells her that NO boys are allowed to stay the night. She said okay, and they all decided to take a 2am trip to Walmart. All my friends are gone, so we head off to bed. I wake up to noise in the house..alo t of noise. It’s his sister and her friends. Mind you this is 9am..I’m thinking there’s no way they’d be over this early. I go outside and it’s the same people here. Apparently they all ended up spencing the night in the living room she says. She later told us she tried to tell them to leave, but it was late, and they were all tired. I then proceed to the kitchen where she is making them pancakes! WTF? Me and my hubs are both college students, saving up for a freakin wedding, AND we were letting her stay for FREE. This is NOT a bed and breakfast. Not only was I pissed that she was giving away our food, she didn’t even make any for me! I was so mad I proceeded to wash dishes..by the time I’m more than half way done, she comes back saying..do you need help? I was NOT happy.
So the middle of the semester is rolling through, we thought everything was great. She was getting up and going to school, and even had a part time job. My hubs gets a phone call from her school saying she’s failing b/c she hasn’t been showing up to school! Oh my gosh, we were livid! My hubs had to go down there and talk to the teacher. Luckily the teacher said if she made up all her work, then she would catch up. We had a talk about this, and her excuse was that the class was “too hard”..when we asked where she was going, she said to her bf’s house! We told her that it wasn’t a good idea to see her bf until school was done, b/c she needed to get her stuff together to graduate. She didn’t take that too well..she was coming back with all this attitude and rudeness. I was upset, and then I asked her if she was even appreciative that we let her come stay with us. She was like yeah, sure. Not the answer I was looking for.
She ended up graduating..thank goddness! But she came and went as she pleased like a hotel. We told her to tell us if she wasn’t coming home b/c hey I was 18 once, I get it. But she would not even tell us if she was coming home or not, which made us worried. All this in our first year of being legally married…almost tore us apart!
This summer she moved in w/ her bf..it’s for the better..but I’m still very upset and hurt that she took us forgranted! We gave her a better living situation than she had, etc.
Is it wrong for me to not want her as a bridesmaid now? She has no respect for me..but neither does his entire family, and that’s another long story! I’m going to end up looking like the bad guy..but if her damn parents could have been real parents and taken care of her, this would have never happened!