- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
One of my closest friends is a bridesmaid but hasn’t been involved in much so far. She has a child under 5 and a husband that doesn’t help out much around the house and they are having some difficult financial times right now and she lives about an hour away, so I have been super understanding about her lack of involvement with the wedding planning and what seems to be a “lack of interest”
Another friend of mine (who is not a bridesmaid) has been involved in wedding discussions, helping Maid/Matron of Honor plan bridal parties, attending bridal shows with us, etc… She seems really into it so I thought she should officially be in the wedding as a bridesmaid. I wasn’t quite sure if she would replace the other bridesmaid or be an addition to the bridal party.
So, I talked to my uninvolved bridesmaid to see if she was going to be able to afford the dress and attend other functions in the future. I wanted to give her the option to bow out gracefully if she needed to. I would not have been upset with her at all even though I really do want her to be a bridesmaid. After talking to her, she pledged to be more involved and promised that she would be able to afford the dress and for me not to worry. I really hope this is the case. The last thing I want is to be let down a month prior to the wedding…
I have decided to ask the other friend to be in the wedding as well and also to keep my uninvolved bridesmaid. I understand her difficult position right now, so her role will just be a little different than the other bridesmaids. To have a more involved wedding party we have just made it bigger.
Does this sound like a good solution? Did anyone else have experiences with some bridesmaids being more involved or interested than others??