(Closed) Bridesmaid Dillema

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

uhhh …….. is this serious??? I would never ever ever ever expect OR want my bridesmaids to pay $1000 for my wedding/events!

Wow, I am sorry … I don’t even know what to say :/  She honestly kicked you out because you couldn’t pay that much? I guess I just dont understand that at all… I’d probably skip the wedding and say adios to the friendship if it were me … 

Post # 4
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@RachelM:  I agree.  That is ridiculous for the other bridesmaids to expect you to pay that much.  I would never DREAM of asking my girls to pay anything near that.  And for her to kick you out of the wedding party? Screw that!

Post # 5
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I honestly think that some people take it to extremes! I can’t evan fathom asking my girls to spend that much money. I also don’t understand why the shower is covered by the bridesmaids. I’ve always thought that would be something that my mother and sister did for me. And even then, I know they, along with my fiances family, will cook the food rather than have it catered. My wedding day will be the most important day of my life to date, but that doesn’t apply to everyone. My BFF of 12 years is getting married in September, and while I am SUPER happy for her, my world does not revolve around her wedding. I love her. I support her. I am excited for her. But if she asked me to spend anywhere near the above stated amount, I would have to respectfully decline to be a bridesmaid, hopefully keeping the friendship intact.

Post # 6
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2711 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

WOW.  Well, it’s up to you OP.  It will depend on how much you value your friendship and if you want to remain friends with her.  Honestly, she’d have to have one hell of an amazing apology (full of chocolate and liquor and puppies and maybe a hot air balloon ride) for me to forgive her and remain friends with her.  To kick you out because you wouldn’t spend X amount on her wedding is f**king ridiculous.  I probably wouldn’t go.

Post # 7
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780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow, I wouldn’t go. She isn’t much of a friend. I am asking my girls to spend about 150.00 on attire. I don’t expect any parties nor am I asking them to lift a finger. I am hosting a bridesmaid tea for them. I am so sorry for you, just focus on your wonderful day and don’t think about it anymore.

Post # 9
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6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I can’t believe she kicked you out because you brought up budgeting.  Is this really a friend you care to have?  What an obnoxious beyotch.  I say, kick her out of your wedding and don’t go to hers. 

Post # 10
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Question:  was this friend a part of your celebrations?  Did she spend money attending your events, and is wondering why these girls don’t share your complaints?  I am just trying to play devil’s advocate and see it from the bride’s perspective? 

Overall, I feel groups of girls can sometimes single out one and perhaps there was not time for logic and reason to shine through.  My sense is that the bride acted on misinformation?

Post # 11
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If anyone asked me to spend that much i would be pissed. Needless to say, I would have mentioned it to the bride, with some suggestions, not the other girls. You have no way of knowing what exactly these girls said to the bride, to cause her to actually ask you to step down! I think you definately should talk to the bride about what happened, you’ve been friends with this girl for years.

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