(Closed) Bridesmaid discussing her "wedding" after 2 months of dating!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

She’s just excited. and the topic is relevant. It’s annoying, but at least she’s excited?

 

Have you thought about a nice way of talking to her?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hey, my grandparents were engaged after not really dating for 3 weeks.  They’re just infatuated with each other, I’m sure she is thinking about her wedding to this guy.  Being around your wedding stuff brings it all up even more.

When she gets like that just say something like “If you guys get married, I can’t wait to do this all again with you, it’s going to be so much fun!  Today we have to get ME a dress though – focus, you crazy star-crossed-lover!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@sweetchiquita12:  I feel you on this one lady!  I may not be getting married, but getting unsolicited relationship advice from someone who’s been dating a person for two weeks gets a little irritating after the first 30 seconds…..so I can imagine how this sets with you on the wedding planning front….

I have NO advice on the subject since I’m pretty sure one of my best friends is more than torked with me right now…but I’m right there with you sister…can’t people just SHUT UP!?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

She may be slightly jealous seeing you getting married and she’s hoping for it as well. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

She just sounds excited, have you talked to her about her relationship and all that stuff?  I mean, she’s supposed to be your friend after all. I can see how it would get irritating if you can’t get an answer out of her for things though.

I would just tell her how happy you are for her, but then try to refocus her attention.  Something “OK, now let’s focus since I only have X time left….what do you think of X or X…for my wedding?”

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@sweetchiquita12:  I was a total brat and told one of my oldest and best friends on Earth that I would be more than interested in hearing his postumous relationship advice AFTER he’d been married for four years, gotten a job, moved out of his mother’s basement, THEN gotten his spouse through three surgeries, his mother through cancer and managed to donate plasma for her regularly so she won’t have to worry about a stranger’s being put in her body AND THEN SEE HOW HOT YOU LOOK!

I think I’ve been bad enough for both of us…just tune your friend out next time and tell yourself, “Aint love grand?”

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have to say I kinda understand her. My husband and I were discussing wedding colours after 2 months but we decided to wait a little before the wedding. He saved up and bought my ring after 8 months of dating. Maybe she needs to learn to not bring it up everytime but shes excited.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know exactly how you feel. I had a bm text me a few weeks ago asking what color suits the guys were wearing. When I told her, she responded with “oh, good, they’re not tan.” Naturally I asked why. She said because she wants tan suits for her wedding. 1. She’s not dating anyone. 2. Why the heck would it matter what color suits they have for mine? We might have approximately 5 of the same guests.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@sweetchiquita12:  It’ll be fine…I’m thinking of locking myself away on Tuesdays, it never works out for me….I am sorry about your friend though…I’d like to hear all about your wedding!  You got a dress yet?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@almostmrsj:  HAHAHA! I love the “focus!!” part!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@sweetchiquita12:  I hear you. It’s not how long she’s been dating the guy — to me, that’s not the point. They may very well get married. It’s more that she’s constantly bringing everything back to herself, when she should really be there for you. A little bit of talk about her own plans is ok, of course, but it sounds like she’s going over the top. I had to learn this for myself, too — I had to make sure that as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I did not constantly say things like, “Well with MY wedding, bla bla bla.”

I don’t have advice, I just feel you!

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