(Closed) Bridesmaid diva!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wish I could help! I’m sorry you are in this situation, she seems to be not in the same “life-place” as you.  That can be really tough for other people.  Keep being firm, and have a fabulous day!

Post # 4
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Uh… I think you answered your own question right at the end there… If she said she won’t wear the dread as is then I’ve resigned myself to the fact that I may have to say ok then that’s a shame and we won’t see you at the wedding an lose the friendship. I’d love it all to just chill the hell out and move on to having a great day.

You might have to do that, period. At this point I might not even use the word ‘have to’.. I might actually say you want to do that. Sell the dress, get some of your money back and carry on with your life. Of course this is entirely dependent on whether or not this friendship is important to you. I’m pretty sure if you kick her out of your bridal party, your friendship will be over. So tread carefully.

Also – this is a super long text block. I don’t mean to be a nitpick but a lot of people aren’t going to get through it just because it’s an assault on the eyes.

Best of luck, and I hope your wedding turns out wonderfully, whether she’s there or not.

Post # 6
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Romanticvintage:  I’m so sorry to hear someone you regard as a close long time friend is treating you like this and adding unessessary stress to your planning. I can see you have tried and tried to say something to her but I think you should try one last time. Take her somewhere you don’t often go (like a coffee shop you don’t often use together- she will know so something is up) and basically repeat what you’ve written at the end of the post. Explain how she’s making you feel and that if your wedding is causing her that much grief because she’s not in limelight for one day, tell her where  the door is!!! You will always know you tried to salvage things and you won’t regret trying one last time. If she sees sense but then continues to be this self centred drama queen, then ask her to kindly leave your tidal party. I sincerely hope she pulls  through for you and you have the day you dreamed of x

Post # 7
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

People never fail to amaze me. You seem to be extremely generous and not asking for much in return. I agree with what you said, make her wear the dress and if she won’t then she won’t be in the wedding. its your day, don’t let people wear you down so you give in. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I also have a bridesmaidzilla, although she’s a bit different to yours (and not as bad, by the sounds of it). I think you know the answer… she will wear the dress or not be a bridesmaid at all. I think you just really came on here to let it all out, right? Well, you have my sympathy. Good luck!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Exactly Hun, do what feels right for you, you’re the only one who REALLY knows your relationship with her. I hope it works out x

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