(Closed) Bridesmaid, do I just make a decision for her?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I make a decision and tell her to step down?
    Yes : (7 votes)
    39 %
    No : (7 votes)
    39 %
    Wait : (4 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    1839 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t know..I think at this point you’ve given her so many chances to change her mind that if I were her, i’d think you don’t want me to be in it anymore.

    Post # 5
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    What do you need to finalize?  I’m sure you can call the florist closer to the date and cancel her bouquet (or just throw it into a vase and put it on the bar or something) and you won’t need to get her a bridesmaid gift just yet anyway.  Let her figure it out.  Honestly, it wasn’t a great idea to keep giving her these ‘outs’, I know you’re just trying to plan but it could have sounded like you didn’t want her in the wedding to begin with.

    Post # 6
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @MrsTimmy:  I wouldn’t give her any more outs.  If she decides she has to step down, then she has to step down. It’s probably a very stressful thing for her to not be able to support you the way she wants to and she likely doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.

    I’d step up the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress ordering.  Send an email to all the girls saying the orders need to be by April 20th and get deposits, or have them call in, etc.  If you don’t hear from her by then, you can reach out to her and ask if by not ordering she decided she couldn’t be in it, etc.


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