Post # 102
We get that you’re offended, we all have our sensitive spots. You should probably drop it, as, two pages back, the OP said something to the effect of “OH! I see it from her side now, not just mine.”
Honestly, if I wanted my wedding to look like a magazine ad I wouldn’t ask myself to be in it. The statement isn’t that offensive.
Post # 103
Ok, I’m just saying that its not your thread either. What makes it any different. She came here with statements that have offended a good population on this board. I don’t think you need to police things for someone who has offended so many and continues to do so with rude statements, and childish pictures.
Post # 104
I find if offensive for the poor Bridesmaid or Best Man. Clearly that means, she isn’t attractive or thin enough to in a magazine.
Post # 105
So I know the bride is getting a lot of slack, but I was in the same position! Two of my bridesmaids swore up and down they would fit into the size 0 and begged me to order that size. I ended up ordering the right size, but still it was a lot of pressure and begging.
Post # 106
@MrsTimmy: I’m not even attractive enough, nor am I thin enough, to be in a magazine ad. They’re photoshopped and aren’t good portrayals of reality… the point of that statement was that I wasn’t looking for my bridesmaids to fit a particular image. Good grief.
Post # 107
@bells219: haha I thought the same about the magazine and me – if I could have a stand in I would lol!!
@MrsTimmy: I’m sure the Bridesmaid or Best Man thanks you for being her advocate. Repeatedly.
OP – As the purpose of this thread was for you to get honest opinions and hopefully act on them, which you have done very gracefully (choice of wording that offends some aside), I suggest you start a new thread seeking some more great ideas on how to make the dress work. Some PPs have had fantastic ideas so you may not need more but if you do the bees really know their stuff when it comes to miracles with dresses and a thread asking for just that would be a great idea!
Post # 108
OKAY I have read through ALL the comments and the thread. People need to drop it; everything that needs to be said has been said. Enough is enough. OP has accepted all advice graciously, and has solved the issue. DROP IT> Everyone move on. Have a good day.
Post # 109
This discussion seems to have run its course, so I’m going to close the thread. The OP seems to have resolved this issue with her friend, hooray!
Post # 114
For real. How rude. If she can’t lose the weight for herself, why the hell would she be able to do it for you so you have a great image for one day? She’s probably frustrated with her inability to be good enough for your wedding and is like, forget it, at this point.
Post # 115
this is from 2 years ago…
Post # 116
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
If I were your bridesmaid, I would quit the bridal party, unfriend you on facebook, and lose your number. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh, but policing her body like that is the ultimate BRIDEZILLA move. Sure, you shelled out for the dress, but that’s all on you – YOU picked the dress, YOU chose to buy it in a size that didn’t fit her, now YOU’RE mad because HER body doesn’t fit your wedding. You’re treating her like crap.
If you want to salvage this relationship, find a new dress that’s flattering on her and beg for forgiveness for your awful attitude.
Post # 117
Trying to leave all judgement aside, here’s my advice: you (generously) bought the dresses and your Bridesmaid or Best Man said she’d lose the weight. Now it’s up to you to leave it there.
Either she loses the weight and wears the dress you bought, or she does not lose the weight and buys her own replacement dress.
It is not fair for your to keep judging her for not losing weight, eating what you think is unhealthy food, etc. It’s her life and her body. If she’s comfortable being a size 11/12, it’s none of your business.
Post # 118
This is a Zombie thread. It’s TWO YEARS OLD!
Presumably the bridesmaid either fitted into the dress or didn’t. Either way it’s ancient history now.
Post # 119
Another glitch that previously closed threads are able to be posted in once again. And apparently no one has the common sense not to resurrect a two year old thread.
Post # 120
Since this was a previously closed thread, i’m going to close it so we can keep it that way. Thanks!