(Closed) Bridesmaid Drama….

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe she doesn’t know that you plan doing pre-wedding photos? Call her back (perhaps email, but I always prefer talking) and tell she must be your get-ready location at X time because you are doing pre-wedding photos.

I think worst case I would put my foot down and say you must do this if you want to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. The only thing you are asking is her help for one day (the wedding day) and if she can’t do that then she should just attend as a regular guest. But save that as a last resort. To start, simply say what she’s proposing is unacceptable because she needs to be there for pre-wedding photos.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Honestly, save yourself the stress and let her do as she pleases. This is probably not a battle worth fighting.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh man, sorry. I agree with @lovekiss. Tell her you’d love to get ready with her and if she changes her mind, she’s welcome…and just leave it at that. It’s not worth worrying about at this point, and if she doesn’t want to be there, it’s probably best that she’s not.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

@lovekiss:  I agree.

You Future Sister-In-Law maybe feeling slighted because her ideas for a party that she was throwing for you were shut down. I mean I can kinda see why she might be hurt because she was doing something nice for you and your fiance and she wanted to make sure the party reflected both of you. That is probably why she pushed the room dedicated to your Fiance. She may have felt that only your ideas were being catered to through your sister.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

I’m with the person who said to tell her that either she comes and participates in the whole day or she can simply be an onlooker/regular guest. My SILs didn’t show up when I asked them to and I have almost no pictures with them and I really don’t like that. I wanted pictures with all of them and instead I have one picture with one of them in it and group pictures of the whole bridal party. I have lots with my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man Cuz though.

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