- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Hello everyone! I need some help with a little bit of Bridesmaid drama. I’ll try to keep it short…
So, my fiance and I decided to only have family in our wedding party, because we thought that would make it less drama filled. I have my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor, and his sister-in-law as a bridesmaid. While they were planning our couples shower, my sister tried to do what I had expressed that I wanted, while my fiance’s sister-in-law only wanted her ideas heard. She wanted one full room devoted to my fiance (there wasn’t a room at the shower devoted to me). She tried to have tequila shots there, and she wanted to make it into a party, when my fiance and I had both expressed that that isn’t what we wanted. She went ahead and my sister did her part of the shower, and the bridesmaid decorated a back room in the decorations that she wanted (only things for my fiance). She spent almost all of the shower in the room that she decorated with her husband. I acted nice towards her, and I still sent her a thank you card for her help with the shower.
Now we are two months away from the wedding, and she sent me an email yesterday saying that she doesn’t want to get ready with my sister and I, and she doens’t want to arrive at the wedding location until the last possible moment. She says she is going to drive an hour and a half to her own hairdresser, and then she’ll arrive at the latest possible time fully dressed.
I really wanted us to at least get ready on site together. I would like her to include herself in at least the before wedding pictures. My fiance and I don’t want this to turn into a full on war, but I would feel really bad if she doesn’t participate in any pre-wedding activities and showed up just to walk down the aisle. What should I do? Do I ask her to please be a part of the getting ready, and pre-wedding photos or do I just let her have her way?