(Closed) Bridesmaid drama

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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157 posts
Blushing bee

Weddings are stressful enough, you don’t need this. You’re not being a b**** either. It’s YOUR wedding. You should be the center of attention. DROP THEM. It’s not worth it. They aren’t putting forth the effort. Do you really want girls like that around you on your wedding day when you need them the most?

Post # 5
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I disagree with the first post.

Maybe they just don’t have the money.  How can you purchase the dress with no money? I’d ask them if it is a money issue.  If so, maybe you need to pick out a cheaper dress or pay for their dresses.  You could even offer to loan money to the girl who is waiting on her check.

Did everyone agree that they liked the dress?  Maybe they are dragging their feet because they feel uncomfortable with your choice in the dress.

Post # 6
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@mrskisstobe: My sister had a Bridesmaid or Best Man who behaved the same way. My sister dropped her from the wedding party after she missed several deadlines to order the dress. She popped back up a few months later promising that she would order the dress and be at the wedding if my sister gave her another chance. The vary last day passed for when the dress could be ordered and be back in time for the wedding….not only did the Bridesmaid or Best Man not bother telling my sister she didn’t order the dress….we never heard from her again.

 

@BlueChampagne: If a Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t have money, or doesn’t like the dress….just refusing to order it is passive agressive and adds stress to the entire planning process. The only thing it’s going to cause is bad feelings all the way around. They have had 2 months to voice their opinions one way or the other.

Post # 7
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with BlueChampagne – I understand that this is frustrating, but it’s also something that can be resolved. I’ve seen (in my own experience) failouts with friends from things like this. 

I think that you need to talk with each of these bridesmaid in an open and understanding conversation, like “Hey. I know that you haven’t put down your deposit on the dress yet. We can’t put the order in until everyone’s deposit is in. When do you think you can do that?” In a calm tone so that no one is put off by that. 

Post # 9
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249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i almost had the same issue. thankfully it didn’t come to it though. my one bridesmaid wanted to wait to order her dress because she wants to lose weight. that’s fine and dandy, but really? how long is it going to take you to get to a ‘comfortable’ weight. she eventually went about 2 weeks after the time i wanted them ordered.

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