Post # 1
I have a dear best friend who I met back in sorority years ago. I wanted to ask her to be in my wedding however my older sister who is my maid of honor and her hate each other. My friend refuses to pay for stuff claiming she is broke. I want her to be in the wedding because if it wasn’t for her, I would have never met my soon to be husband….but I want a stress free wedding and no bickering.
What do I do?
My sister said she is fine if I give “K” a different role in the wedding…..what role can I give her?
Post # 3
Your sister shouldn’t decide who is in YOUR wedding party. Tell your sister that you love them both and want them both there for you.
But if your friend won’t buy the dress and stuff that’s somehting you two need to figure out.
Post # 4
I agree with atalanta, but if you are looking for other roles… maybe a reader?
Post # 5
Tell your sister to cram it. It’s your day, you should have who you want with you, and she can keep her skirts untwisted for your sake, I’m sure.
Post # 6
Tough luck for your sister. It’s your wedding party, and YOUR day, not hers. As a maid of honor, she should be supportive of your every decision.
However, you need to be upfront with your friend and make sure that she can actually afford to buy what she will need to buy. You may also want to spek with her, as well as your sister, about what you are expecting out of both of them in regards to their behaviors.
But–if they really hate each other, drama is inevitable 🙁
Post # 7
Give your sister and your friend your expectations. They are to behave, be adults, and be supportive of you and your day. Your friend is to purchase a dress that is within reason of her budget and your vision. If they can’t play nice, and if your friend can’t manage the dress, they can’t be in the bridal party. Period.
Post # 8
If your friend has financial issues and would rather not be a bridesmaid, you could ask her to be a reader, and/or present her with a bouquet at the reception. But if she wants to be a bridesmaid, and you want her to be a bridesmaid, let your sister know how important having her in the bridal party is to you and ask that she be nice for your sake. Good luck!