(Closed) Bridesmaid Drama before asked

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have whomever you would like.  I would say stick to 3 or 4 since that seems to be the number you were going for.  Large bridal parties are too much drama for me personally.  If you only chose 3-4 girls, then A won’t  be the only one left out.  Good luck! This is why I am glad I have sisters!

Post # 4
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

First, I’d wait until about 9 months before your wedding to even ask anybody.  People change, relationships change, and weddings tend to bring out the crazy in everyone!  You might find that over time things work themselves out & you’ll know who you really want standing up with you on your special day 🙂

Post # 5
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

You are a very sweet person for even considering her feelings to begin with. But I assure you that not having her in your bridal party is perfectly acceptable if not a VERY wise choice on your behalf. On your wedding day you only want to be surrounded by people who have a selfless unconditional love and support for you. A has already shown her true colors – she is not one of those people.

YOu don’t owe her anything. YOu don’t have to include her just because her feelings are hurt and you don’t even have to explain yourself to anyone. If I were you I would move forward with asking/announcing your bridal party and try not to let her potential reaction worry you too much.

Also, as a side note, if she’s already assumed that she’s out then maybe the fallout won’t be as bad once her theory is confirmed. Because she’s had time to think about it and accept it – and possibly even come up with reasons as to why you would be justified in your choice!

Post # 6
3305 posts
Sugar bee

Definitely don’t choose her… She seems like she would make you stress more.

Post # 7
3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@armychica06:  Agreed. Thankfully her true colors have shown before you asked her so you won’t have to deal with the drama. 😉

Post # 8
1790 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with all of the PPs

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