(Closed) Bridesmaid Drama – Bride's Sister

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Am i being unresonable and selfish?
    No : (6 votes)
    32 %
    Yes : (6 votes)
    32 %
    Your sister is being unresonable and selfish? : (7 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @gabrielle.gagnon24:  I think your sister is being unreasonable. This is YOUR wedding. I have a distinct feeling if SHE were the bride she would not be a accomidating as you are. You need to tell her and your parents that the rules are for all the bridal party out of fairness. She needs to cover her tattooss, wear the dress you want and the shoes or she can become a guest. If the choose not to come, so be it. Enjoy your day and love your husband.

    Post # 4
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    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    She’s definitely being unreasonable. You should stand up to her, lay it on the line, and if she chooses not to follow the rules then she is effectively CHOOSING to step down. Explain this to your parents and then just hope for the best. All I’ll say regarding your parents is that if they choose to let this issue affect them so much that they refuse to attend their daughter’s wedding, they’re not very good parents. You can’t force them to attend, and if they choose not to come then that’s THEIR issue, not yours.
    Maybe your sister acts this way because noone ever forces her to act differently? If that’s the case and you give in to her again on this, you’re just perpetuating the cycle.

    Post # 5
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    2232 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    While your sister hasn’t been the nicest to you I can’t say that you’re 100% not in the wrong here. I don’t have a single tattoo and I’m not a huge fan of them but I would never, ever ask anyone to cover up something that is part of them just for photos. I really don’t think that’s fair in any way. If you love her for who she is then she is that same person on your wedding day, tattoos and all.

    Are the shoes and the tattoo issue really worth creating such drama over? I would just let it go and let her wear whatver shoes she wants and let her be herself at your wedding.

    Post # 6
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It sounds to me like you have been as accomedating as possible and that she is doing anything and everything to cause problems, at this point i wouldn’t even give her an option, I would fire her.

    Post # 7
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    I don’t think she is being unreasonable, maybe not the easiest to get a long with,but some of her concerns are founded. Requesting her to cover sleeve tatoos, is a really hard task- try finding a dress to do that and have it be something flattering.

    I don’t really get the big deal with the shoes, you gave options and she found an option she liked better. In the scheme of it they are shoes. Yes, she should have absolutely communicated better and probably could have been more pleasant.

    From here on out make a decsion and tell all of your Bridesmaid or Best Man that decsion, when you give options and leave things open for opinions you are going to get them.

    And I doubt your parents would not come over these little issues, if they would miss your  wedding over this then you have much bigger issues than dresses and shoes. I would ask them to let the two of you deal with your problems.

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