(Closed) Bridesmaid Drama – Brown Skin tones and Purple Dresses – What should I do?

posted 9 years ago in African-American
  • poll: What Should I do?

    kick my sisters out of the wedding and leave everything the way I want it

    have the MOH wear dark purple and the bridesmaid wear the lighter shade

    Change the accent color to Black instead of Purple (because blue and green are not options)

    Other (explain below)

  • Post # 32
    3048 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I think my skin tone goes fine with every color out there. And I’m a dark brown. Tell them to stop complaining and either wear the dresses, or sit down during the ceremony. 🙂

    Post # 33
    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    That is crazy rude! THIS IS YOUR WEDDING NOT THEIRS! Geezzz! I know you want to please them and listen to their suggestions but in the end it is your wedding and what you want. You are the one everyone will be looking at!

    I can’t understand how people think it is ok to put up a fight on this stuff.

    Post # 34
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    You tell them–this is what the bridesmaids are wearing. If you won’t wear what I’ve chosen, well then, I’m sorry, but…..”

    They should not be trying, nor should you allow them, to dictate your wedding plans to you.

    Post # 35
    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    They should have at least tried the dresses on…deep purple shades look great on dark brown skin.

    Post # 37
    7367 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    They are being ridiculous. Purple looks fanatastic on brown skin. Stick with your vision, by simplying giving them the option of other purple shades.  

    Post # 38
    3600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

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    @MELIS5A: Tell them to put up or shut up. They aren’t the bride.

    Post # 39
    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    That’s a beautiful color! I don’t like purple normally, but I LOVE that color! They should just wear it.

    I’m high yellow and wore yellow in my friends wedding. I got over it since it wasn’t MY wedding!

    Post # 40
    256 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I love the color purple!  Tell them to get over it….If you want that color use it…..I Promise it will be gorgeous!  I used purple in my wedding and all of the girls were different skin tones….Here is a pic!  Good Luck Smile


    Post # 41
    8 posts
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My gals looked great and I had skin tones from white to dark chocolate.  Eggplant is the best!!  Take a look.  We ordered Lapis colored dresses….

    Post # 42
    17 posts
    • Wedding: August 2012

    yo, your crew is straight up crazy as shite! maybe you could do different dress styles that they like?

    Post # 43
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012


    I was in a wedding in January and here is the Purple I wore (The Dessy Collection). I think it is your wedding and you should have what you would like to have. Remember the day is about you and your husband, not everyone else.

    Post # 44
    18 posts
    • Wedding: August 2011

    It’s your wedding and they should all get over it. Espically if they want to stay in it. I’m doing lavender for 4 of my bridesmaides and purple for my 2 Maid/Matron of Honor. my other colors and mint green and silver so there’s a little bit of that in there too. 

    Post # 45
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I wish my sisters would!!  How I see it they got two options 1) Wear what you want them to wear or 2) TAKE OFF THE DRESS AND BE A GUEST!!

    My first color was red and black.  When I changed it to eggplant one of my sisters was like “YAY”. I asked her why she didn’t tell me that she didn’t like red and she said it’s my wedding not hers and she would were what ever I wanted. 

    Our other sister is getting married 3 months before me, got 4 sisters I told them we all need to get married next year and get it over with, and her colors are purple and platinum.  I love the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress she chose but I don’t like that it’s a 3 tone dress but if thats what she wants I will be ROCKING IT!!

    Like your sisters I wasn’t feeling the purple and gold but after I saw a setting with eggplant table cloth and gold chargers I was sold.  LOVED IT!! 

    My sister and I have the same taste and with us getting married 3 months apart and our colors being so close we have to compromise so its not like Deja Vu.  If we both want something then someone has to give up something to get something else.  If we both like the same centerpiece if I let her have I’ll pick another one but the next time we like the same thing I would get it and she has to get something else… No arguing or fussing.  this is suppose to be a happy time!!

    Post # 46
    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @kryje003: the bm in these photos look fabulous in the purple…. stunning in fact. (loving all the wedding pics in the link. 

    MELIS5A i love your wedding colours go for it, and your sister needs to realise your vision wont comprimise how nice she will look, i love all white flowers too especial with the bold colours of the bm dresses. 

    let all her comments just roll of your back and carry on regardless. i would show her some of the pics of the beautiful bm shown in this post. 

    my moh is not being as difficult but she has made her views on my dress choice clear…. she and her 10 year old daughter have almost matching dresses and she doesn’t want to look like a big verion of her daughter…. after some thought i began to agree…. if i am faced with a confrontation over anything i don’t want to change i simply wont change it. 

    good luck ….. i have 6 brothers and no sisters sometimes i think i should count myself lucky to be the only girl in the family, dressing men is so much easier lol 

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