- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I have been with my beau for about 6 years, so when I say this wedding is a long time coming….It truly is. Keep that in mind as I tell you my predicament.
The groom and I have a larger wedding party, partially due to me not having any siblings so I truly count my girlfriends as sisters. And as far as the groom goes he’s just wonderful so he has a lot of great friends too. So anyways, we have 8 each. And the 8 selected has been set for quite some time… one of those 8 is a friend(I’ll call her friend A), long term friend, that I have known since high school. ( I am 4 years out of college now.) We haven’t remained super close all these years but still make the time to know what is going on in each other’s lives and when she still lived in our hometown I would usually see her when I was home, or at least try to. She was also there for me during a hard time during my high school years, and that means a lot to me. Friend A was dating a guy for about as long as me and the groom when they got engaged and started planning a wedding. Well things didn’t work out and the wedding was called off. It wasn’t a very smooth split but things happen for a reason right?
So I have this other friend, (Friend B) who I met in college. She is my best friend in this entire world. Anyways all through college and the past four years since I left we have remained best friends and even though we don’t live in the same town, we text nearly every day and talk all the time.
So friend B moves about 4 months after friend A and guy split up. Friend A starts dating someone else. Guy who USE to be engaged to friend A decides he thinks friend B is wonderful (which to his defense she is) and starts trying to court her. I PANIC because it was just such a weird situation and feelings were still fresh but I get over it and friend B and guy are officially dating now. Friend A in the meantime, a year after she split with guy she gets engaged to a new guy and is now happily married. Friend B and guy (who use to be engaged to friend A) are still happily dating. HOWEVER, during the splitting up of Friend A and guy there were some angry moments and words exchanged, difficult situations for all involved, so this all made friend B pretty much hate friend A. Friend A doesn’t really talk about friend B or her ex and has, I believe, moved on and harbors no bad feelings. Friend B it’s a different situation. It seems that friend B never misses a chance to say how much she doesn’t want friend A in the wedding. I get that no one is ever a big fan of their significant other’s ex, but I warned everyone involve when this whole situation started that I would not be taking sides. It stresses me out because obviously friend B and I are still very close and I don’t want her to be unhappy when doing anything with my wedding, but friend A is also someone that I know I would feel bad and regret not putting her in my wedding. I don’t want a bunch of drama at every event or even just the wedding. (Friend A lives in CALI, not TX) The last thing I want to deal with is cattiness and sarcastic remarks. I have waited forever for this day and want it to be wonderful not dramatic.
Any words of advice would be GREATLY APPRECIATED!!!