(Closed) Bridesmaid Drama – Please help!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i would give them both the boot. I for one had to kick out a Bridesmaid or Best Man becuase she was being realyl snarky and saying that i intentionally left her out fo things, which wasn’t true. She just wanted to do things on “her” time.

I am a firm believer that if you are spending all this money on a wedding, the ladies you want by your side are huge supporters and women you love and adore.

They say that weddings brings out people’s true colors. and you just got proof of that.

Post # 4
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’d be booting them both out. This isn’t supposed to be a drama affair but that’s what they are going to make it into. Don’t surround yourself with that on your special day unless you want to risk how stressful it is.

Post # 6
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


@Ms. Giselle: I agree, I’d give them both the boot, it’s so hard to make the final decision–there shouldn’t be any drama at all.  It’s you and your Fiance day, noone elses!  You can’t be bothered with two people not getting along. Goodluck!!

Post # 7
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Ms. Giselle: tell Ms. A that due to her behavior, you don’t feel she has the same beliefs/feelings as you do towards the sanctity of marriage.  That her polygamist behavior doesn’t sit well with you and you don’t wish to have someone who doesn’t believe in faithfulness towards a man and woman stand up for you at your wedding.

Of course, it might need rewording, but it should get the point across that you don’t accept her crappy attitude/behavior. 🙂

good luck and sorry you gotta deal with this!!!

Post # 8
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow…that’s quite the drama for sure! I would say that if you are willing to break all ties with your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man, then kick them out. But you have to realize that it will likely ruin the friendship for a very long time (if not forever). Did you know about your MOH’s character before you picked her, or was her behavior a sudden change? If this behavior is typical for her then you should have known that before you picked her. If the behavior has only happened in the past year or so, it may be reflective of some major life problems that she has going on and maybe what she needs above all is a friend.

Post # 9
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

maybe i’m  being really dense, but i dont really understand why you are kicking Exh A. out? i know she did a bad thing, but she isnt causing drama now? or do you think it will  all kick off? Totally agree with you about  Maid/Matron of Honor though!

Post # 10
29 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

Remember this day is about YOU and your GROOM!!  You need no tension or worry on this day!!  Go with your gut!  If you think them being there will stir up bad feelings and make you worry more…don’t have them in it.  Tough call….I wish you luck!  But again..it is your day to be HAPPY!!!

Post # 11
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I can understand asking Maid/Matron of Honor to step down, but not the Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Personally, I would never tell a friend’s Boyfriend or Best Friend that my friend was cheating on them, that’s just me, but I wouldn’t, because I don’t feel like it’s my place, even if I don’t approve of my friends behavior.  You never really know what goes on in other people’s relationships. 


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