(Closed) Bridesmaid drama…what else?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Your friend is being 100% ridiculous. None of her complaints are valid. Honestly, I’d just ignore it and move on with my planning as normal and probably just talk with her about my plans less since she will clearly take offense to anything!

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Why are you texting her your bridal shower date if you’re not getting married until May 2017? Honestly I can see why she might look askance at that. 

But holy cray, she doesn’t own the months of May. She’s going zilla on that. Give her some space and hope she bounces out of it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Your friend is making mountains out of mole hills. I hope you can get better soon, so you laugh at the ridiculousness of your buddy. GL Bee

Post # 6
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Honey bee

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armywifetobe:  Girl, no. You don’t even have to defend yourself for texting her your shower date. The idea that anyone else talking about their wedding during her ~bridal shower weekend~ is taking away her shine is too ridiculous to dignify with words. 

Hopefully after her wedding is over she’ll pull her head out of her ass and remember the world doesn’t revolve around her. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

She’s being ridiculous and I think it’s disgusting that instead of being worried for you, she was just annoyed you missed her shower.  What the hell?  I’d set her straight on that right away and end everything if she didn’t realize how hard she’s at fault there.  Regarding Punta Cana, if you want to go there, then go.  Don’t tell her.  If she asks, say you haven’t decided yet.  Then send her a picture of you two that looks exactly like one she and her new husband take there   Seriously though, she’s out of her mind and I bet it’s not the first time.  Mostly, as I said, if she can’t get straight that your health is more important than her present party, I’d kick her to the curb entirely and good riddance.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

She was upset you didn’t attend her shower when you were clearly ill?  Did she want you to be there and pass on the bug to all her guests?  She’s being utterly ridiculous.  Also, she has no claim over any month of the year or honeymoon destination. Do whatever you want!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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armywifetobe:  I don’t think you’re wrong at all. Imo I think she’s being cray cray and paranoid but what’s the overall goal here? Salvage the friendship?  Make your point know consequences be damned? Get an apology? Or just vent? If this was my close close friend that I wanted to stay close with I would just suck it up until after the wedding thinking it was nerves bringing out this new “monster” in my once “kick ass” friend then after the wedding passes  I’d  say “ok dude you know you were acting sooooo crazy right? Lol” but sigh… it’s all good. 

Not a close friend scenario: id take a step back and if more crazy ensued I’d politely make my thoughts known and maybe distance myself if it persisted. I certainly would not change my honeymoon plans.  I mean you don’t own Mexico right?  I can go yes?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

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armywifetobe:  I agree with the first responder to this post. She is totally wrong and weird, but it’s not worth fighting over so just communicate less and try not to give her fuel to get wacky about. Don’t pick her honeymoon spot, there are so many awesome honeymoon spots that you can go somewhere else. The may thing is ridiculous and makes her sound like a Bridezilla. She can’t own May forever. I’m worried that this chick is gonna be a problem Bridesmaid or Best Man for you because she’s going to HATE that her wedding is over and it’s about you now. Prepare yourself and maybe keep her at arm’s length when you’re planning yours. Sad that it’s like that… 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Honestly, if she’s that good of a friend, take the high road, lay low and give her a free pass— this time.  AFTER her wedding if she pulls any more crap, then go to her house and “have a talk”…try to go right after she’s sick too.

I would try to stay out of her way, it could just be nerves and keep planning the wedding of your dreams.  If she has any thing to say about your day, then you really do know who she is.  Good luck and hope you’re feeling better!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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armywifetobe: OMG… You and your friend are such cows… I got married in May…like how dare you copy me. I have dibbs on may and no one else in the world is allowed to get married in that month like ever again!!!! 😉

Like seriously though…. WTF???!! She sounds like a zilla!!! I would go on your honeymoon wherever you want. I would also maybe wind down my friendship with her.  you get a wedding day…not a wedding century !! her behaviour is utterly ridiculous…

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Your friend sounds a little bit mental. She’s being ridiculous, completely; she’s making connections where there aren’t any, and coming up with all these stupid little conspiracy theories. It honestly sounds like she is nothing more than a drama queen who wants to make everything all about HER.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Had to re-read your post.. is all your friend said about the wedding date move “Odd we’re getting married in the same month”?  If so, why are you freaking?  She just made one comment, according to your post.  Unless she bitched at you and you’re not mentioning it here?

I do understand her coming over to talk to you, considering she’s out of state and if she’s in town this weekend it might’ve been her only opportunity to see you.  When she said she was upset about you not coming to the shower and you explained the illness, was she cool about it?

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