- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
Hey fellow bees! I apologize in advance because I know that this is going to be a long post, but bear with me – I need some advice:)
Ok…so I got engaged in November (yay!), and after the initial excitement of telling everyone, replaying how he proposed a zillion times(I’m a geek I know) – there was one person I realized I had avoided telling…one of my best friends. It wasn’t that i didn’t want to tell her…because I did, but she is the type of person who can’t be happy for someone unless something better is happening in her own life. So after about a week, I call her to come over – and I tell her the big news…and her reaction…. she congratulates me, then immediately starts crying because her long-term boyfriend hasn’t asked her to marry him yet. I mean the word congratulations hadn’t even fully come out of her mouth yet…and she was already crying. She then goes on to say that its not fair because she’s been dating her boyfriend longer, and says that my ring is bigger than what she will be getting, and she should be getting married first. She took a look at my wedding binder ( I told you I was a geek..lol) which had a bunch of different bridesmaid dress options in it, and she starts telling me that I should get something that was flattering on her. I couldn’t even form words at this point, told her I was tired and that I would call her later. I was, and still am, beyond hurt.
So I avoided her phone calls for a little bit, then sent her an e-mail explaining my feelings, and although she apologizd I have no doubt that I don’t want her in my wedding party. I don’t want any negative vibes on an occassion that is so special. We used to be really good friends, but recently drifted apart. In her response back, she basically said that if she wasnt in the wedding party – she didn’t think she should go to the wedding. Should I just let this friendship go??