Post # 61
I know it’s not what you envisioned but blush, gold, coral and navy could look beautiful. See: http://traciedomino.com/2015/09/29/what-were-working-on-marsala-navy-coral-fall-wedding/
(I’m partial to marsala in there too since it’s my wedding color but YMMV)
I had a friend who used to railroad me and we aren’t friends today, but it sounds like your situation is a bit different and this girl does care about you, she’s just a bit flaky and self-absorbed (and truthfully, who isn’t sometimes?). I think you should pick your battles, stand your ground on future decisions, and don’t let your Maid/Matron of Honor pit you against your Bridesmaid or Best Man or get in your head, either.
Post # 62
I feel terrible for you, that was so wrong of your bridesmaid. THe fact that you gave option of 2 colors, took time to shop with each separately and gave them some choice is MORE than most bridesmaids get! It is YOUR day, YOUR theme and the role of a bridesmaid is to support YOU. I would agree that if the dresses are paid for and non refundable and you already (under duress) agreed, that it would be only fair for you to foot the cost of the change, but In My Humble Opinion you should go for it if it is financially feasible for you. This means, they should also hand over the original dresses to you so you can see if they can be sold to recover some or all of the cost of new dresses. Stand your ground. Let her know that this really upset you, and when its her day, if she chooses coral, you will happily wear it! If she continues to stommp, maybe kindly let her know that while you cant imagine your day without her up there, you would completely understand if she would rather attend as a guest (in her expensive coral dress!)…
Post # 63
Blush and gold are my colors too so I definitely feel your pain with the coral.
I would either reimburse her or buy the dress in the appropriate color. If she doesn’t like it, then maybe she can stand up for you as a guest instead.
I will say my bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor are the exact opposite. They have no opinion, they just say we’ll do whatever you say or whatever you like. This is a gift and a curse because if I’m asking, I want their opinion.
Post # 64
Everything that DeniseSecunda : said!
Post # 65
LittleKisses_xo : Just for a bit of perspective, nobody looks at the photos of the bridal party after the wedding. yes, you will probably have them in an album and look at them periodically but I’ve never gone into anyone’s home and seen a framed photo of the couple and their wedding party on their walls.
Also, just a tip. I’m getting married in late September and love peonies and they’re not in season so my florist is ordering in roses that get really big and fat like peonies. This might work for you too!
Post # 66
Wow, some rude people here. I’m going to assume you are soft hearted like I am and avoid conflict at all costs which can kick you later. Can’t necessarily help that. Would it have been easier to just say no? Duh. But that doesn’t help you Bee. Honestly everything about this girl seems fishy. Something about her says she will either not show up day of or she will make it all about herself and ruin the fun. Personally I wouldn’t bother much with her and give yourself a replacement or not bother with her.