(Closed) Bridesmaid dress cost cap?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Whats your preferential BM dress spending limit?
    Ummm... I'll never wear it again!!! $75 or under please! ;) : (3 votes)
    4 %
    I could do $125. : (19 votes)
    28 %
    I guess I love her, but no more than $200! : (32 votes)
    47 %
    Okay, but you're pushing it at $300. : (6 votes)
    9 %
    Doesn't matter, I'd spend w/e... skys the limit! : (3 votes)
    4 %
    "Depends" ... on what? Explain yourself! : (5 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    it really depends on what else the bride is expecting of me – hair and makeup? bachelorette party and shower? new shoes? i think of it as an all-in expense, along with alterations, airfare, etc. as well. but generally i think if it’s less than 200, that’s fine.

    Post # 4
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    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    Every situation is different, and so are people’s circumstances.  If you are having a black-tie wedding and the bridesmaids you choose are financially stable and aware that you are having an expensive wedding and that you expect a certain type of dress/gown from them they should be ready to pay more.

    When I chose my bridesmaids I was open with them, I said, I want you as my bridesmaid.  Can you handle the responsibilities?  Such as dress, hair, nails, and make-up.  In the end I chipped in on their dresses, and paid for their makeup as part of their gift.  I think overall the bride should be aware of her bridesmaids circumstances and have an open dialogue about money and the cost of everything involved.

    Post # 5
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    76 posts
    Worker bee

    I spent $300 without alterations on a dress, but that’s because it’s the only option I was offered that wasn’t strapless or thin spaghetti straps and the only option that wasn’t a tube style dress, both of which would have made me look horrible. The most I would spend these days with alterations is 200. Then again, I don’t think I would be a bridesmaid again except for one of my siblings or my best friend.

    Post # 6
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Amongst our “group”, we acknowlede that $150 is our range. A bride called and was all, “is $160 ok????” and i said sure! Truth be told, it was $180 by the time the extra length was added on, but she would only take $160 from us as she paid for them up front and had us reimburse her. The only reason she said she picked such expensive dresses is b/c her sister is really plus-sized and only a “real” bridesmaid dress would do. I only spent $50 on her shower gift instead of the traditional $70 and $30 on her bachelorette gift instead of the traditional $50. I’m no cheap skate, but I compensate.

    $200 is my limit before I say something or give out a low whistle. Thankfully, we are all the kind of people in my group that find out beforehand what is an “ok” dollar amount because we all young, some paying for grad school, some their own wedding, etc, and as much as you love someone, if you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it, plain and simple.

    I don’t think a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress should ever cost close to what my wedding dress did. My wedding gown was $400.

    There are so many factors. Of most of my friends, I certainly can afford a pricey gown. Our house has a low mortgage, our wedding’s over, my husband’s a Captain, I’m an engineer….but I don’t have thousands of dollars saved away to be in all my friend’s weddings and it’s a lot of money all at once usually. I’m in two weddings within 2 weeks of each other coming up…and I’m buying gifts now (on sale, thanks Macys!) so I don’t hurt later.

    I try to set a budget for local weddings of $400 per bride. It sounds chintzy, but when I say I’m in a wedding, it’s now my husband’s money, too. I buy gifts on sale, carpool, book a hotel early, etc. My SIL does my hair, I do my own makeup, and all my friends are VERY ok with “it’s ok if you don’t spend $80 on an updo and $40 on makeup!” so it’s nice that my friends are all so considerate about our money.

    Post # 7
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    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    My girls get to pick their own LBD so I guess I’m being nice, but… seeing as I’m in college, about to graduate and just about everyone else i know is in the same boat, I think the dress should be under $150. My poor friend is going to be in 3 weddings next year, all with $120+ dresses!

    I agree with ONash–I wouldn’t be in a wedding party after next year unless it was for a sibling or cousin (my cousins are my BMs). My best friends are all getting married next year!

    Post # 8
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    76 posts
    Worker bee

    Oh, one more thing. I just thought I’d point out that the best people to ask would be your bridal attendants. If you picked them, then hopefully you can trust them to be reasonable enough to shoot you a reasonable amount they are willing to spend.

    The only way to know for sure is to ask the people involved. In the $300 gown wedding, three of the girls were perfectly happy, but one of the girls ended up very upset about the cost, which she got revenge for by not buying a gift. This girl and the bride don’t speak anymore.

    Post # 9
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    2344 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    When looking for my bridesmaids’ dresses, $150 will be my cutoff. The one I think I like is $138, and even then I feel a little bad about it. The most I’ve paid for a bridesmaid’s dress when I was in a wedding was $250 and it was definitely a waste of money.

    Post # 10
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    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

    $225, provided I could wear it again.  Less than that, though, if I definitely couldn’t rewear it!

    Post # 12
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    76 posts
    Worker bee

    Hee. In hindsight I am not very happy, but I had no idea what was reasonable at the time. It was the first wedding I was in/attended as an ‘adult.’

    Post # 14
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    $200 is the absolute limit, because I can’t even really afford that. 😉

    Post # 15
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I think $150 and it better be a damn good dress. I’m in a wedding coming up, the dress is $200 and during the dress searching process the bride was very nice about asking our limit, and knowing that I’m unemployed offered to pay whatever I’m not comfortable paying. So I paid $150.

    Post # 16
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    889 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    All of my girls have to fly to my wedding in Northern Michigan from all across the country, which i know will be expensive, so before we even looked at dresses I asked all my bridesmaids what their budgets were.  Most of my girls have very good paying jobs, so money isn’t really an issue for them, but i still wanted to make sure that they were all comfortable with whatever the costs are going to be.  Our max budget for dresses is between $200-300.

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