Post # 17
I am worried about this also because I want long dresses, which are always more expensive than shorter dresses. I don’t want them to spend more than $200, but I can’t find anything I like. I would like for them to be able to afford to get matching earrings and their hair and makeup done, so the cheaper the dresses the better. ahh!!
Post # 18
My girls paid $170 for their dresses, which I think is reasonable. I’m taking care of their alterations myself (they’re both going to need the straps shortened, and one needs hemmed for sure). I am a bridesmaid later in the summer and my dress was $150 and if I need alterations I’m on my own, but that’s no big deal for me since I’m a pretty good seamstress. I think anything under $200 is fine for someone with an average income.
Post # 19
@canadajane: yes. this does worry me. Especialy because the wedding is outside of town and will require a bit of travel/accomodations. :/ I’m thinking I will let them pick out their own shoes as long as they match, I will also give them matching necklaces as their bridesmaid gifts, still not sure what to do with hair and makeup.
Post # 20
@peaseblossom: In my circle/area, $150 is reasonable for a short dress, and $200 for a long dress.
Post # 21
My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were $50, but the average of what I’ve paid as a bridesmaid was $100-$150.
Post # 22
I was able to score some (long) Amsale Dresses at Bloomies for $97 a peice. Going to regular stores and shopping through their sales racks can lead to some awesome steals (as long as you know all your maid’s sizes and can find a dress for each).
That said – I’ve worn the gamet of bridesmaid dresses – $250 JCrew dress, $5 Sample Sale Wrap any way you want dress, to the quintisential pink with blue belt David’s Bridal Bridesmaid dress (i think that one may have been > $250) ugh – just thinking about that dress makes me itch.
Living in a big city, and being out of college – if asked to be a bridesmaid again, I would be okay with anything up to $400 (most Long JCrew dresses are in the high 300 range)… although I don’t think I’d feel comfortable making my bridesmaids spend that…
Post # 24
We did dresses at David’s Bridal. They all got them on sale for $99. I had them all wear silver shoes of whatever style they wanted. I bought them necklaces and braclets as Bridesmaid gifts.
Post # 25
@peaseblossom: In my circle, average middle class to lower middle class, I’ve never had to spend more than $150 on a dress. Personally my max is $100, so I usually wait to order until it’s sales season which at most wedding chain stores like David’s Bridal is pretty standard every year. The last wedding I was in the bride actually told us when the sales dates were, what the cost on sale would be, and expected us to wait until the sales to order so that was fabulous. I got a $150 dress for about $80, as did every other bridesmaid. I’d spend $150 if I had to but I wouldn’t be happy about it knowing I’d never wear the dress again, and with my body type after alterations I would never be able to re-sell it either…
Post # 26
@peaseblossom: I would say more in the 150 to 250 range for just the dress. That’s what I’ve paid for the 3 weddings I stood in.
Post # 27
The dresses for mine were $180 plus shipping. I’m not sure that all of them will need alterations, but I think that cost will vary depending on where they live. My bridesmaid in New York City will definitely spend more than the ones in Orlando.
Post # 28
@peaseblossom: My Bridesmaid or Best Man dress choices range from $150 to $190. I think that’s fine.
Post # 29
I’ve only been a Bridesmaid or Best Man once but in my wedding, the cheaper the better!
All my maids were students or not working at the time so it was really important to get a gown that met both my standards and their budgets.
I made it my mission to get out there online and instore shopping sales and finding these david’s bridal beauties for $50!
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a diff wedding and the Maid/Matron of Honor made those convertible dresses for $35 each:
I think you need to ask your BMs.
AND shop sales! What color do you need? Ann Taylor has some awesome sales on right now and they have long chiffon gowns…
Post # 30
It totally depends on your circle. If you have a friend you are worried about keeping things affordable for, then you need to choose things based on what is accessible for her so she’s not in a bad position. For my girls, I had 2 out of 4 who had very little to spare, so obviously no $200-$300 dress was going to fly. I think $100-$150 is normal for a dress, and if a bride wants specific shoes/jewelry/hair/makeup they should pay for it unless they get a cheaper dress to compensate. I’d say $300 would be my absolute max for the “day of” look. That’s assuming there’s no expensive travel for wedding/wedding related parties.
Post # 31
I voted 50-100, 100-150. Regardless of what “the norm” is, I have paid upwards of $200 for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress before and was definitely upset to have to spend that much. Seemd excessive. I didn’t complain, but I wore it once, didn’t like it, and will never wear it again. BMs have extra expenses like gifts for showers, travel expenses, days off of work, etc. No way would I ask my BMs to pay that much. My maids will be wearing their own little black dresses and I MIGHT ask them to buy matching shoes for under $80, jury’s still out on that.